
It’s funny when people act like black men are exceptionally bad - or womanizing. Or are the only people who buy into hyper-masculine tropes. Black masculinity is just always the most demonized, placed on display, used as a scape goat in the media. I can look at ANY man and say that I just see someone who wants to sleep with as many women as possible - but black men always seem to hold a place as the MOST barbaric of them all.
I don’t know how you can stop your point f view. For one, stop buying into the racist idea that all white men are good and all black men are evil. It wouldn’t hurt to acknowledge that black and white aren’t the only two races that exist. I don’t understand what good wanton to end up with a white man will do if he treats you like shit at the end of the day.
Do you not have any black male friends? Or do you just evaluate them on how perfect of a husband they aren’t? Do you have any male friends? Cause in pretty sure you do and you become friends with them because you actually it to know them. Actually get to know black men instead of just observing them as museum exhibits before you sit there an say the only ideal mate is a white man.
This was basically “how can I stop being racist?” I don’t know how to knock racist conclusions out of your head… You gotta do that on your own…
And that’s even if black men even wanna with you. Because if you have this “I’m trying so hard to find value in black men” chip on your shoulder NO ONE IS GOING TO WASTE TIME ON YOU ANYWAY.
The two “experts” overlook the fact that the idea of localized “interculturalism” began in academic and political circles, with the promotion of individual and group exposure to other individuals and groups taking root in countries including Canada, Spain, and Britain. Whilst it’s easy to see how the method could yield great results if gradually applied to communities truly and entirely “ghetto-ized” by culture or race, it is difficult not to think of the flurry of news reports earlier this year which connected immigration with unemployment, pointing to the intersection of social and economic problems within the identity debate.
The program appropriates interculturalism as a hook and is forced to flatten out the identities of the eight complex and rounded individuals into racial and religious differences in order to create a decent dramatic story. The eight chosen inhabitants represent one of the range of stereotypes that dominate the race discourse–from the bearded devotee Rashid to the retired racist middle Englander Jens, the Muslim woman Sabbiya, and the young skinhead Damon.
The “documentary” steers us through a heavy-handed narrative of drama and conflict over the house budget, meal-times, and bedrooms, before commonality and understanding begin to dawn. An example is Rashid’s desire to pray at the mosque in congregation, which conflicts with the group’s timetable, until he agrees to compromise and pray individually whilst remaining with the group; a sight which moves feminist Mara to tears.
The two-part program contains many such moments which seem genuine and uncontrived. But the focus on emotional drama means that any attempts to subvert stereotypes are clumsy and obvious, from Rashid’s rugby-playing background to mixed-race Audrey’s dislike of Asians. Most reaction to the program has come from Bradfordians angry at the patronizing way in which the city is approached, with a weighted focus on its racial problems.
Remember when some people saw Will’s outfit and were enraged? Yeah. I think Glee actually deserves a pat on the back for this one. Now if only they fixed the rest of their shit…
I hope fandom was listening, too; made even worse, because there are folk who actually do try to undo stereotypes, but fandom likes to cling anyway.
(via racialicious)
Sofia Vergara, of Modern Family, who maybe yells a little too much. (via newsweek)
Oh look, it’s a good thing I am typing this instead of, you know, actually YELLING at Newsweak.
Here is the thing: I can understand Sofia Vergara’s words, where she is coming from. Have I “used” the Latina stereotype to my advantage ever in social situations? Yes, probably. I mean, nobody is free from the social context where interactions take place. However, no amount of “making fun of our stereotypes” is ever going to fix stuff like this (from the article):
It’s a quality that DeGeneres poked fun of recently in a behind-the-scenes video for their first Cover Girl shoot, calling Vergara’s accent “phony” and claiming “to be sick of” Vergara’s struggles with the English language.
I’ve lost track of the amount of times I’ve had to smile politely while people made fun of my accent. We will only be truly free to embrace these stereotypes when we don’t have to deal with reactions like that. Meanwhile, no, I resent the fact that Newsweak implies we should all “exploit” it to our advantage.
(via redlightpolitics)
This even extends to the “Angry Black Woman” steretype. While I GUESS there are some instances where I can use it to my advantage/ as leverage to get my way. There are even instances where I can make light of it as it applies to my own life. Yes, we all know that stereotypes are everywhere and are a “normal part of life.” But when black women (and in this case Latina women) are only represented through these tropes and NOTHING ELSE - they begin to chip away at the ability for WOC to actually get taken seriously in a professional/serious environment.
There’s a difference between “stereotype embracing” and MOCKERY. We like to pretend its a fine line, but really, it’s not.
(via redlightpolitics)
I don’t begrudge anyone getting their due attention and diligence when they go missing. The coverage they receive more often than not helps in their eventual recovery, or at least leads to finding the parties responsible, and by no means is that a bad thing. More troubling is the lack of that kind of attention leveled on the missing African Americans. After all, we make up a a third of all missing persons cases in the United States, while being only 12 percent of the population.
The stories Find Our Missing features don’t make for less compelling television — can you imagine the uproar America would be in if the media caught wind of a kidnapped, disabled, white five year old? — and they don’t lack substance or quality. Why isn’t Ann Curry talking about Hassani or Pamela? Are we still seen as such an Other in this country that the heartstrings that tug at Elizabeth Smart’s name won’t also tug for Hassani Campbell? Or is it that kidnapping and mysterious disappearances simply aren’t seen as crimes that happens to Black people? Gang, drug, sexual, and domestic violence are ‘our’ crimes, and the media struggles to break away from that mold when giving coverage to stories of the missing.
It’s almost as if they’re confused when a comfortable, middle class black woman goes missing with no hints of the average ‘Black crime’ elements involved. (The common perception that there are ‘no black serial killers’ certainly helps explain the difference in the amount of national coverage Anthony Sowell received in comparison to other recent serial killers like Dennis Rader in yet another case involving several missing Black women in the Cleveland area.)
When it comes to shows profiling crimes and criminals, you’re more likely to see a person of color starring on Lock Up than you are on Dateline, and that’s one of the reasons I’ll be watching Find Our Missing every week. If given a platform and the exposure it deserves, I firmly believe that the program can help solve some of the cases it features.
Even if the cases aren’t solved, at least they’ll get people thinking and remembering that there aren’t just the white women disappearing in Aruba to worry about.
released for free by MHP in light of the first lady recently commenting about being tired of the stereotype constantly being applied to her
who’s surprised? *crickets*
Can we also talk about how there have been black artists, writers, and directors trying to do this for years but no one cared until a white hero showed up to do it?
right? “we can ignore all those other attempts but come on guys - GEORGE LUCAS. He obviously knows what’s best for POC! Geeze!”
But yeah, it reveals the nature of erasure. This happens every single day and has been happening in the history of fucking media, but it only gets noticed when a very privileged individual - the person who fucking created star wars - can’t even get past the barrier.
who’s surprised? *crickets*
Melissa Harris-Perry on the Colbert Report talking about her new book & how stereotypes affect black women in America.
Watch this and understand why I love this woman
Found this image courtesy of Clutch Magazine, with the following commentary:
While I nodded my head at each of items listed on the comic, I wondered if advertisers can ever effectively market things to African Americans, and specifically Black women, without falling back on tired stereotypes (uh, hello sassy Tide girl).
Although I understand the need to want to target specific demographics, when will companies realize that Black women shop, go to restaurants, and clean their homes just like everyone else?
What kind of advice would you give advertisers looking to market to Black women?
( Comic originally from Kiss My Black Ads)
what do you think?
Was written in May - but this is just as relevant right now
When we embrace our curvy bodies, we’re told we’re fat. When we accept our thin frames, we’re accused of lazy or bad cooks. We’ve been charged with nursing and caring for the children of our white employers from Antebellum times through today, but we’re constantly being portrayed as bad mothers. We put a weave in our hair trying conform to a beauty standard that has nothing to do with us and we’re still called “nappy-headed hoes”. When we go to school, get degrees and a career, we’re “un-marry-able”. If we work and have kids early instead of going to school, same thing happens. When we or others decide to celebrate us, white women scream out “REVERSE RACISM” but we have to comb through 50-11 magazines with white women on every page to find ONE with a Black woman on the cover. We bare it all in a video or keep condoms in our nightstands and we’re called sluts. We dedicate ourselves to The Church or are decidedly single and we’re prudes or “bitter”. All too often, we are forced to choose our race over our gender or risk feeling the wrath of our Brothers, despite having to live with the realities of both. From Saartjie Baartman aka “Venus Hottentot” to Satoshi Kanazawa’s “scientific” study claiming Black women being less physically attractive than EVERYBODY else, we’ve been studied like freaks of nature instead of just regarded as human beings with the same value as all others.
We’re pretty much damned if we do, damned if we don’t. So, the stereotype of “The Angry Black Woman” is rooted in a very visceral truth. We’re tired of this shyt. Stop telling us to stop getting upset. Stop telling us to not be mad despite having to deal with this crap ALL THE TIME. Why are we supposed to put up with this reckless disregard for our humanity with a smile on our face? Because we’re women? Because we’re Black? Please, miss me with that bull. We are HUMAN first. This anger is righteous and all ignoring it and the causes of it will do is create a dyspeptic breeding ground for spiritual, psychological, social and physical dis-ease.