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If we do gender appropriately, we simultaneously sustain, reproduce, and render legitimate the institutional arrangements that are based on sex category. If we fail to do gender appropriately, we as individuals-not the institutional arrangements-may be called to account (for our character, motives, and predispositions).

"Doing Gender" 

Authors: Candace West and Don H. Zimmerman

- a good article on gender performance and how gender is constructed and reproduced in daily societal interactions. Moreover, this excerpt points out that those who “fail” at doing gender in the “right” ways are often marked as societal “deviants” who are judged to have questionable motives & character.


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So here is the deal.

The Perverts of Color Anthology is still well on it’s way to completion. It will be an anthology recording People of Color and their experiences with alternative sexuality. Katie and I are still in the editing process. Let me just tell you, if you ever decide to edit an anthology with over 40 different authors… you’ll understand how large a project this is. But it’s so dear to us. It’s like we’re working on the book that we wish we’d had oh-so-many years ago. And I continue to be amazing at how many people are just excited to finally share their stories.

Then we thought, “Why does the conversation have to wait until the book is published?”

So that’s why this blog is here. It’s not my blog. I want it to be our blog. Our voices. Our stories. Our experiences. Right here.

What is a pervert of color?

A person of color who lives and loves inside of the alternative sexual community. A person of color who has to deal with being called a pervert inside and outside of their racial communities. Maybe… someone like you?

If this sounds like you… please submit to this tumblr and share your stories. You are more than welcome to submit anonymously. Ask questions. Post pictures. Complain. Flirt. Just be a Pervert of Color in a space that’s safe and dedicated to people like you.

You aren’t the only kinky brown person anymore.

Got a message in my ask about this today and this sounds SUPER interesting. I’m always a big fan of anthologies that explore alternative viewpoints. I hope me reblogging this means that many will find the blog they’ve been looking for 

‘Pariah’ Director Dee Rees and Kim Wayans Talk With

It’s no secret that films that tell stories about people of color have a hard time getting made. Seasoned Oscar-nominated directors like John Singleton, Spike Lee and Gregory Nava have a hard enough time finding investors to back their films, so when Dee Rees decided she wanted to tell a coming of age story about a young, black lesbian, she couldn’t go the traditional route and went as far selling her Brooklyn apartment to raise funds.

This film has intersectionality, Spike Lee protege’s and people from NIGERIA?!

This gets a NWF stamp of approval.

I can always count on Racialicious to bring interesting shit to my attention

Wait a minute, not all lesbians in movies are white, rich or middle-class with no bills to pay? You mean “life” doesn’t get put on pause so that all gay people can experience the thrill of coming out at summer camp? And, there are other LGBT issues worth talking about besides marriage? Gasp! And Hallelujah for Spike Lee protégé Dee Rees’ Pariaha film women of color (and other marginalized groups) can truly relate to.

On the surface, Pariah is a coming of age story about an African-American lesbian, Alike (pronounced “Ah-LEE-kay”) in Brooklyn. But dig deeper, and you’ll see a smart and layered tackling of gender, sexuality, religion, and even class — an essential layer of complexity needed to accurately portray the diverse experiences of queer people of color, long been absent from mainstream LGBT films. Rather than depicting homophobia as the only kind of oppression experienced by the LGBT community, Pariah’s world is a varied socio-cultural landscape in motion featuring an all-POC cast, led by Nigerian actress Adepero Oduye’s performance as 17-year old Alike.

In case you missed it, here’s a link to the Pariah Movie Page - check it out

While this isn’t a new topic, our country is STILL fucking up when it comes to sex education. 

Or perhaps this issue really bothers me because I grew up in the south where they were MILITANT with their abstinence only education… Every single year we were told to take our virginity and keep it locked in a “special box” or some weird shit…

from the article:

The battle over sex education, however, isn’t about what’s safe or healthy for children. It’s about what’s comfortable for seriously sexually repressed adults. In the War on Sex, it’s the children who are the victims. The welfare of our children is being sacrificed so that religious fanatics to inject their beliefs into the structure of our government. The safety of our children is being sacrificed so that adults can feel better about themselves. It should be, of course, the other way around.

The battle over sex education is the battle over childhood and adolescent sexuality. Our government, controlled by corporations and their right-wing authoritarian pawns, has set a clear, tragic, and dangerous challenge: Preventing young people from having sexual experiences and ignoring their health needs as they do.

They’re forcing kids to join them in an unholy crusade to deny sexuality — in the process creating a toxic synergy of teaching kids to fear sexual feelings, while adults fear sexual information. They’ve put kids on the frontlines of the War on Sex as shields and demanding they patrol a toxic landscape of a cultural conflict.

And they’re doing this with your money. Anti-sex educators were awarded more than $200 million in funding in 2006 alone, in every state in the nation. Abstinence-only-until-marriage has been taught in more than half of American public schools and most private schools. Probably in your kid’s school.


MOONROOT: An Exploration of Asian Womyn’s Bodies


OH MY GOSH! It’s finally here! MOONROOT is an ongoing collective project about race, gender, and bodies created by Sine Hwang Jensen, Amy Dewan, Sun Hashmi, Marilla Li, monna wong, Jess…

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excerpted from:  Internalized Racism among African Americans: the Connections and Considerations for African American Lesbians and Bisexual Women: a Clinical Psychological Perspective 

Jewelle Gomez observes that “[p]assing is an obscene form of salvation. Just as a black woman passing for white is required to deny everything about her past, a black lesbian who passes for heterosexual is required to deny everything about her present.” Gomez’s writings provide us with eloquent analyses of the silence about African American lesbian and bisexual women in African American communities and the silencing of African American lesbian and bisexual women themselves. It is appropriate to define this group. African American lesbian and bisexual women are a large and diverse group represented in every age group, socioeconomic class, educational level, physical ability, and geographical region. Their diversity must be considered in understanding their individual identities and the wide range of those identities. Because African American lesbian and bisexual women have multiple identities, we cannot make arbitrary assumptions about which of those identities is most salient to a given individual. Moreover, we cannot even assume that one identity is ever more important than the others. Furthermore, identities shift in salience depending on the social context a woman is in at any given time and during different developmental periods of her life.

Female orgasm is a different story. Shhh, don’t talk about that – it makes people uncomfortable. Think about it—how many slang terms for female orgasm can you think of? Can you make a list? Are there mainstream movies that depict or discuss girls or women masturbating? Although I can think of a few exceptions (Pleasantville, The OH in Ohio), if female masturbation occurs in mainstream films, it is often told from a male pornographic fantasy perspective (e.g., American Pie). Such media depictions suggest that men have uncontrollable sexual drives, (which, apparently, women do not) that must be satisfied immediately by any means necessary. Unlike men’s, women’s sexual desires are peripheral to our conversations about sex and sexuality.

Homophobia is a central organizing principle of our cultural definition of manhood.

Homophobia is more than the irrational fear of gay men, more than the fear that we might be perceived as gay. […] Our fear is the fear of humiliation. We are ashamed to be afraid.

Shame leads to silence—the silences that keep other people believing that we actually approve of the things that are done to women, to minorities, to gays and lesbians in our culture. […] That clammy-handed silence when guys in the office make gay-bashing jokes.

Our fears are the sources of our silencs, and men’s silence is what keeps the system running.

Masculinity as Homophobia — Michael S. Kimmel (via teanjellybeans)

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Some sociologists argue that in U.S. culture, girls and women experience a “symbolic clitoridectomy.” In other words, even though women have clitorises in the physical sense, conversations about the clitoris are absent from discussions about sex. This is ironic given the hypersexualization of women’s bodies in mainstream media. When the clitoris is symbolically removed its importance is wildly understated, and presumed insignificant in sexual play.

The Clitoris: Most. Awkward. Discussion. Ever! | SociologyFocus (via linzyxxxxx)

We also have a PIV (penis-in-vagina) centric society when it comes to any discussions of sex. That is, that women need penises to have orgasms, and that most women who have PIV sex experience orgasms, which is simply untrue.

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side eye. you have to be white to be thinking masturbation is “the last” female sexual taboo. seriously. im always left wondering where the fuck do ya’ll live?

Can you elaborate?

for WOC color simply existing =sexual taboo. we havent even gotten to bodily autonomy yet, much less masturbation, i mean. really.

I completely agree with you on that point, although i wouldn’t say that it’s something than can’t apply to white women—that is, i’m not saying it’s not a race issue (it patently is) but i don’t think it’s wholly a race issue.

I certainly think that it would behoove us all to remember than outside of a very small group of (yes, probably white), independently wealthy, upper-middle class women, feminine sexuality is completely off the table.
Sexuality is denied to poor women, working-class women, disabled women, older women, women in religious communities. The only arena in which these women are afforded some license, really, is within the sphere of mental health—although paradoxically “promiscuity” and “sexual deviance” are also frequently the very measures used to exert control over us—and it’s not as if, outside of very specific communities (i’m thinking here of very orthodox, kabbalistic Jewish populations, as an example) turning to the “madness” idiom ever really provided any liberation whatsoever.

And even (elaborating for a moment on the Judaism point) within those communities where turning to the culturally-sanctioned “madness” has been an option (if we understand dybbuk possession as a culture-specific syndrome a la, e.g., koro or amok), that “liberation” only involves moving from one kind of marginalisation to another (albeit one that is culturally acceptable as a means to express a sexuality that women are otherwise denied) and, further, involves reinforcing the traditional doxa and religious symbolism used to control women’s sexuality.

But, no, i definitely agree that the linked article comes from a place of definite privilege in comparison to the reality of most women’s sexual lives/social deaths.

yeah…more specifically,  black women have been literally used, bought and sold and continue to be commodified, so, yeah,…….many people were not considered at all when this article was written and titled.

Google hottentot. It’s still here. The “fascination”/obsession/fetishistization of our behinds is still here.

Great discussion…

sometimes these things just need to be spelled out


Being a Queer Latino who is very sex positive, it is very difficult to not feel the biting sting of someone who expresses their sexual desire for me based on my ethnicity or solely on the way I look.  

I’ve been amongst a group of friends that I have no shame in having slept with, but, having recently discovered that I was described by them as an object (a joint: one that is passed around) more than a human being because of the privileges that are bestowed on them by the institutions they come from or field of study they concentrated in, it makes me question my place among them when their attempt to distance themselves away from me by placing an oppressive nomenclature on me makes them feel as if they were the dominators as opposed to being on the same level as the person they are with.

I thought I was in a community that was accepting of these practices, but they’ve already set me apart for having messed around with many people of the group. This event has began to bother me after seeing this post and realizing that beyond this situation, there has always been this issue that I wish I could swear I were being taken seriously in the company of the people I have slept with, but there’s this feeling of being objectified and never really being completely present.  It’s easy to move on from one person to another, but if in the process I’m offended by something said about the way I looked, acted, or spoken that was uncalled for, I only grow a need to withdraw completely from having a sex life in general so I don’t deal with being dehumanized.

Often times I do question my sexuality in the realm of whether I should try to refrain from having sex unless I’m actually dating someone or if I should continue being okay with what I’m doing now.  It’s disempowering when people I respect call me out on what I’m doing in a negative manner when they themselves are practicing what I have been doing. It’s even more disempowering when people you hardly know instantly treat you like a toy to play with as opposed to a human being. What triggers this feeling further is when your own culture or identity is a reason for why someone is okay with treating me with any lack of respect. 

I’m often mistaken for having Middle Eastern origins, which makes it tempting for men to feel like they have the experience of being with someone who was Middle Eastern. When I explain what I actually am, often times I’m met with a disgruntled reaction as their fantasy is shattered and they’ve had sex with another Latino.  If I show any support for any Latin American country or any other country outside of the US or Europe, I’m shown scorn or criticism as the West is the only legitimate source of any kind of progressive or idealized thoughts or actions.

It often feels like I’m in a constant battle to feel comfortable within my skin.

I keep seeing more and more continuation of the women of color and sexuality discussion on my dashboard.

Keep it coming. This was probably one of the most important things I’ve seen all week

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In reference to the conversation that was taking place earlier about WOC and sex.  I feel like this picture embodies a lot of that conversation for me.  How black women are supposed to be sexually knowing and “schooling” the white boy.  

I always think this shit is really ironic considering that the people in charge of black female sexuality throughout history have not been black women themselves, but white men. What is this foolishness about the lasciviousness of black women? You know who’s lewd and hypersexual? Not black women, but the people who raped them and continue to rape them without any form of reprimand for their actions (hey, DSK!).

Also, what’s wrong with sexuality? Even if black women were particularly concerned with eroticism (post coming sometime about the repression of healthy sexuality in the Black community…), what is wrong with that? Why is it wrong for women to possess agency with regard to their own sexual organs?

Anyone got an answer? My ask box is open. 

It’s times like this when I wish this Tumblr link weren’t in the hands of people I know IRL. I have a story that’s so applicable to this concept and I’d love to share it, but those of you who actually know me really do not need to read about my (effectively nonexistent) sex life online.

i shall be waitin on that post, love!!!

This picture…ugh. I remember one of the first white guys I dated as an adult going on & on about the great sex he’d had with WOC & how much they taught him. I think he’s probably still wondering why he never got any from me. At the time I was icked out that he spent our second or third date rhapsodizing about sex with other women, but looking back I assume on some level I knew I was just another experience for him & not a real person.

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So I’m starting this project and its focusing on how men and women (of color) can work in partnership to take on issues of gender unique to certain communities. I want to examine how race, gender and class all intersect to affect certain communities. 

I plan on doing my own research - but does anyone out there know of readings, quotes, speakers out there that talk about:

  • Unity between the two genders when it comes to taking on the patriarchy
  • How communities of color are affected by gender roles/sexism/classism
  • Critical race theory when its applied to historical feminist theorists

If anyone could send over anything they can think of to help me develop an argument/philosophy, please send it over. Stuff along the lines of bell hooks, Patricia Hill Collins, The Cambahee River Collective. Nah mean?