— PBS Documentary “The Pill”
— PBS Documentary “The Pill”
— PBS Documentary “The Pill”
— professor from Standford U in a lecture addressing heterosexual hook up culture on campus and the likelihood of both partners to reach orgasm during hook ups.
The other day I got a question about allowing children to transition - since I didn’t have knowledge on the subject I opened it up to tumblr. Here were some of the responses:
I think the distinction is that these kids that are transitioning at that age aren’t just letting their kids do it because “it’s what the kids want.” Gender Identity Disorder is something identified and “diagnosed” (for lack of a better term) by a psychologist. Children that are transitioning do so in a guided way; it isn’t just the parents letting their child do this. If the submitter was referring to kids who wear non-gender-conforming clothes, well, kids go through phases.
Just because your three-year-old boy likes to wear pink shoes or puts on a Disney Princess dress sometimes indicates nothing about his gender identity or sexuality. Gender Identity Disorder does exist in young children and is identifiable even from a young age.
the submitter needs to realize that sexuality and gender are two very different things that manifest differently. Someone who is misgendered, theoretically, never feels comfortable in their own body. Someone who is gay or bisexual has to come to terms with their feelings about others, not themselves … if that makes sense.
anon:
I wish I had transitioned when I was a kid. I was certain I was trans at age 13, and that hasn’t changed in the last 8 years. It would’ve been much easier to transition as a teen, or to at least be put on hormone blockers and transition later. I’m not able to do it now because I’m at a university in a very conservative state, and I don’t have enough money for both hormones and surgery. I think that young trans kids should at least be allowed to have hormone blockers, if not full transition.
As far as trans* kids go, I know a lot of parents who will start their children off on a slow process, especially if they’re threatening to commit suicide which happens a lot and these kids are very young.
anon:
Regarding the anon who spoke about trans children, and how they would have made the wrong decision as a child. I have to ask - did they go to a trans positive therapist at any point in their childhood? Because transitioning is incredibly, incredibly more difficult as a child, and an adult already has a hard time getting the medical and other support they need. Additionally, children usually don’t get put on drugs until near-puberty, instead ‘simply’ living as their real gender. (cont.)
Essentially, these children will go through a battery of tests - usually more than most adults, at least in America - to make certain they want to actually be a different gender. Once they are determined that yes, they really, really do, they still have to wait for appropriate medical care. Do mistakes happen? Possibly. But they would be incredibly few and far between, and I would guess that the anon would have realized they weren’t trans long before anything medically happened.
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NWF (me) on the problems & limitations with the “myth of the vaginal orgasm” article that i posted yesterday that was brought up here & here
and there was also a critique that i found really important posted by baddominicana about the danger of switching one “absolute” fact with another one that is just as flawed.
read them all? k thnx
mickyalexandria submitted:
Hello I’m Micole, and I’m beginning a research project, and hopefully also turn it into a documentary, on the sex lives of queer women/female bodied genderqueer people of color. It’s a short 10 question survey, please give as much detail as possible. It explores both race and gender in relation to queer relationships and sex lives. I seems that this particular topic is rarely researched. There are works about lesbians of color, but with this I want to look as all those who identify anywhere under the umbrella term of queer. So please help me out I’d appreciate it! Thanks.
Just came across this article. Not only is it much needed, but its exactly what I need to write this paper about the social construction of femininity & sexuality
Abstract:
Queer studies discourse still reflect the dominant white culture. Even text by gay writers of color fail to express the differences found in black experience and are thus unable to theorize about it. Such silence continues to eradicate and make black lesbians doubly invisible, first as black women and second as lesbians. The end of silence would make visible lesbian blacks and transform the dominant view regarding their sexuality.
tumblr puts the most interesting things on my dashboard
and she actually compares the way women in America are “routinely naked” to ACTUAL SLAVERY. Saying “in the antebellum South, young black male slaves were naked while serving the clothed white masters at table. To live in a culture in which women are routinely naked where men aren’t is to learn inequality in little ways all day long.”
making the choice to dress a certain way, regardless of how it relates to societal pressures and outside influence is in no way the same thing as the intentional, calculated and blatant dehumanizing aspects of slavery & FORCED nakedness. it just isn’t. No one’s going to whip me if I choose against wearing a mini skirt.
come on… we can all be feminist without comparing the CURRENT state of womanhood in America to slavery. honestly we can.
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“Doing Gender”
Authors: Candace West and Don H. Zimmerman
- a good article on gender performance and how gender is constructed and reproduced in daily societal interactions. Moreover, this excerpt points out that those who “fail” at doing gender in the “right” ways are often marked as societal “deviants” who are judged to have questionable motives & character.
Please reblog and share!
So here is the deal.
The Perverts of Color Anthology is still well on it’s way to completion. It will be an anthology recording People of Color and their experiences with alternative sexuality. Katie and I are still in the editing process. Let me just tell you, if you ever decide to edit an anthology with over 40 different authors… you’ll understand how large a project this is. But it’s so dear to us. It’s like we’re working on the book that we wish we’d had oh-so-many years ago. And I continue to be amazing at how many people are just excited to finally share their stories.
Then we thought, “Why does the conversation have to wait until the book is published?”
So that’s why this blog is here. It’s not my blog. I want it to be our blog. Our voices. Our stories. Our experiences. Right here.
What is a pervert of color?
A person of color who lives and loves inside of the alternative sexual community. A person of color who has to deal with being called a pervert inside and outside of their racial communities. Maybe… someone like you?
If this sounds like you… please submit to this tumblr and share your stories. You are more than welcome to submit anonymously. Ask questions. Post pictures. Complain. Flirt. Just be a Pervert of Color in a space that’s safe and dedicated to people like you.
You aren’t the only kinky brown person anymore.
Got a message in my ask about this today and this sounds SUPER interesting. I’m always a big fan of anthologies that explore alternative viewpoints. I hope me reblogging this means that many will find the blog they’ve been looking for
It’s no secret that films that tell stories about people of color have a hard time getting made. Seasoned Oscar-nominated directors like John Singleton, Spike Lee and Gregory Nava have a hard enough time finding investors to back their films, so when Dee Rees decided she wanted to tell a coming of age story about a young, black lesbian, she couldn’t go the traditional route and went as far selling her Brooklyn apartment to raise funds.
This film has intersectionality, Spike Lee protege’s and people from NIGERIA?!
This gets a NWF stamp of approval.
I can always count on Racialicious to bring interesting shit to my attention
Wait a minute, not all lesbians in movies are white, rich or middle-class with no bills to pay? You mean “life” doesn’t get put on pause so that all gay people can experience the thrill of coming out at summer camp? And, there are other LGBT issues worth talking about besides marriage? Gasp! And Hallelujah for Spike Lee protégé Dee Rees’ Pariah, a film women of color (and other marginalized groups) can truly relate to.
On the surface, Pariah is a coming of age story about an African-American lesbian, Alike (pronounced “Ah-LEE-kay”) in Brooklyn. But dig deeper, and you’ll see a smart and layered tackling of gender, sexuality, religion, and even class — an essential layer of complexity needed to accurately portray the diverse experiences of queer people of color, long been absent from mainstream LGBT films. Rather than depicting homophobia as the only kind of oppression experienced by the LGBT community, Pariah’s world is a varied socio-cultural landscape in motion featuring an all-POC cast, led by Nigerian actress Adepero Oduye’s performance as 17-year old Alike.
In case you missed it, here’s a link to the Pariah Movie Page - check it out
