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Posts tagged "sexual assault"

Whether it happened a few hours or several years ago, and no matter what your age is, telling someone you’ve been sexually abused or sexually assaulted is a very difficult thing to do. It takes courage and strength to talk about such an intimate, painful experience with another person. Sometimes it’s even harder if they are someone who is close to you and really cares about you.

In response to an anon who came to me asking what to do now that they realized they were sexually assaulted. This website goes over common anxieties around having to report what happened to you, WHO you should tell, when, where would be the best location to do this, how much you should tell, and the instances where it would need to be reported to the police.

I hope this is helpful to that anon and anyone who may be in the need of this resource

When I was in college, students had a real self righteous indignant pushback to any type of sexual assault, rape culture awareness anything. Acting as though an issue was being invented and shoved down the throats of well-meaning do-gooder college students who are being unfairly made to feel feelings about sexual assault.

Meanwhile, across the country, colleges become actual social ecosystems where rape culture and sexual assault and systematic and protected, developed and reproduced on an institutional level.

and when these bright eyed and bushy tailed entitled students finish their 4 years, they are released off into the world to assault and potentially ruin the lives of the rest of us.

Asker Anonymous Asks:
If a male teacher has a inappropriate relationship with a student, he goes to jail for a long time. But if a female teacher has a inappropriate relationship with a student, she gets less time.... It don't understand this, does equal rights movement for both genders apply here?
newwavefeminism newwavefeminism Said:

Being against patriarchy means being against the harmful patriarchal ideology that ignores/downplays the sexual abuse of men as well as the traditional cis straight male centered definition of what rape even is.

I’m thrilled that it’s becoming a (not fast spreading enough) trend to investigate colleges for how they deal with sexual assault in house.

For anyone in college or about to start college here’s a quick sexual assault bulletin - It is against a college’s perceived best interest to deal with sexual assault in the full force they deserve.

Let me break down a few things:

  1. Colleges, especially private ones (which is my personal point of reference) operate on their own judicial system. Never ever assume that turning over an investigation to college officials is what you ought to do, or your only option. You don’t want the same system that punished honor code violations and dorm vandilization to handle someone who rapes/attempts to rape you. YOUR SCHOOL ISN’T LAW ENFORCEMENT.
  2. Colleges may try to convince you to let them handle a situation in house as oppose to going to the police. Or they may even fail to bring up the police as an option, hoping you will assume that its included in them handling a problem.
  3. If your school “prosecutes” your assailant and they get off either scott free or with a stupid punishment - YOU CAN ALWAYS GO TO THE *REAL* POLICE. Don’t think it’s over because they administration pretends it’s over.
  4. If anything ever happens, CALL THE POLICE FIRST, not campus safety or whatever rent-a-cop service your campus has that will be all “oh, but didn’t you go to that all-campus party tonight? and don’t you have all these drinking violations?”
  5. SAFER: Students Active For Ending Rape. is a non-profit geared toward empowering college students to fight against sexual assault on campus. Their websites has great resources. Look around.

If there’s anything I hope you take away from this post is: don’t trust college/university officials to handle a sexual assault issue as though they were law enforcement. Proceed with your case in whichever way makes you feel most comfortable (maybe calling the police isn’t easy for everyone) but if at any case you feel like your college is pulling shenanigans on your case - the police is always an option and your right!

From the article:

According to my mother, black women’s bodies were often battlegrounds for opponents of civil rights. She specified that while all demonstrators were in danger of being attacked, women were often specifically targeted. She explained that the thugs (civilians and so-called law enforcement officers) who battered her and her female counterparts often exacerbated their attacks to threaten black women’s dignity, and to spark the patriarchal ire of male protesters.

She implied that these white men used violence against black women as a tool to buttress their notions of racial and gender superiority, to flaunt control, and to disrupt the movement’s progress through harassment and intimidation. Moreover, she insisted that routine acts of aggression were seldom met with accountability, which led to a cavalier perpetuation of this form of terror.

Through my mother’s accounts and the stories my father shared about his cousinJoan Little, who bravely defended herself and slayed a white jailer who tried to rape her, I learned about the prevalence of violence against black women leading up to and during the civil rights movement.

While my mother’s experiences and Little’s obviously differ due to the fact that my mother was not sexually assaulted, the common threads are that they both were victims of police cruelty and unchecked systemic violence fueled by a virulently racist and sexist culture.

Through family stories and Danielle L. McGuire’s groundbreaking textAt the Dark End of the Street: Black Women, Rape and Resistance—a New History of the Civil Rights Movement from Rosa Parks to the Rise of Black Power, I strengthened my knowledge about the significance of bearing witness and documenting stories about violence against African American women.  

McGuire’s book details how the “ritualistic rape and intimidation” of black women including Recy TaylorBetty Jean Owens, and Joan Little helped spark the civil rights movement by mobilizing black communities, giving much-needed context to how African American anti-rape activists and organizers such as Rosa Parks and Ida B. Wells inspired their communities to stand up for black women’s bodily integrity.  

Also, if you read The Ethics of Living Jim Crow (i may post about this separately) Richard Wright discusses the fact that in Jim Crow, black women were so ruitinely disrespected, assaulted and degraded that if a white man was degrading a black women, everybody better learn their place real quick and join in or co-sign that shit. Everybody acts like all that stuff is in the past, but then we act surprised when - to this day - WOC are treated the way they are and depicted certain ways in the media. Or they wanna pretend that our constructed hyper-sexualization is *actually* pathological. Our country lived in a SYSTEM where this wasn’t just the norm - it was a brutally enforced expectation. There is no off switch to socialization.

The fact that this is a talking point is utterly disgusting.


A teenage boy who raped a girl of five was handed a community order by a judge who blamed ‘the world and society’ for his exposure to pornography.

This judge needs to recuse himself from the world

(via thenewwomensmovement)

An interesting (yet monochromatic) guide explaining the varying levels of sexual objectification in ads.

Sociological Images:

What is sexual objectification?  If objectification is the process of representing or treating a person like an object (a non-thinking thing that can be used however one likes), then sexual objectification is the process of representing or treating a person like a sex object, one that serves another’s sexual pleasure.

How do we know sexual objectification when we see it?  Building on the work of Nussbaum and Langton, I’ve devised the Sex Object Test (SOT) to measure the presence of sexual objectification in images.  I proprose that sexual objectification is present if the answer to any of the following seven questions is “yes.”

Sex workers face instances of violence at astonishing rates, largely because of the stigmatized nature of their work as well as misguided efforts to “rescue” sex workers which actually both drive trafficked individuals further underground and place sex workers in increasingly dangerous situations. For the women whose services were used by these American men in particular, the imbalance of power seems almost unimaginable. Clearly, the men who caused the harm to these women in Colombia and Brazil did so precisely because they knew they could, because brown-skinned women not of the so-called “First World” have always been assumed to be invisible, and because the gender-based violence that accompanied every U.S. war game in Latin America and the Caribbean has been buried, dismissed or even condoned. One should not assume that this history is not recent enough for average folks in Latin America to have collective memory of the role U.S. state agents played in these tactics that sought to crack down on dissent, self-determination and empowerment through terrorism.

Nakshatra: Agents of Violence: What the violations against sex workers in Latin America reveal about U.S. presence in the region 

Click the link to read the rest of Ashwini Hardikar’s post about US military presence and its increasing role in Latin American sex crimes.

Our community, much like society-at-large, needs a paradigm shift as it relates to our sexual assault prevention efforts. For so long all of our energy has been directed at women, teaching them to be more “ladylike” and to not be “promiscuous” to not drink too much or to not wear a skirt. Newsflash: men don’t decide to become rapists because they spot a woman dressed like a video vixen or because a girl has been sexually assertive.

How about we teach young men when a woman says stop, they stop? How about we teach young men that when a woman has too much to drink that they should not have sex with her, if for no other reason but to protect themselves from being accused of a crime? How about we teach young men that when they see their friends doing something inappropriate to intervene or to stop being friends? The culture that allows men to violate women will continue to flourish so long as there is no great social consequence for men who do so.

Zerlina Maxwell’s piece “Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped.” 
click the link to “like” them on facebook:
Wiyabi is Assiniboine for, “Women”. This project was created in response to the overwhelming and frightening statistics of violence towards Native American Women.

*1 out of 3 Native women will be raped and 3 out of 4 will be physically assaulted.

*88 percent of the violence is perpetrated by non-Native men, and Tribal courts have zero authority to prosecute them.

*The murder rates is 10 times the national average.

*Native women are more likely than any race/ethnicity per capita in the U.S. to be victims of violence.

*Native women are more likely to be stalked than any other group of women.

*Between 2005-2009, U.S. attorneys declined to prosecute 50% of all Indian country matters referred to them, 67% of which involved sexual abuse and related matters. 

In addition to promoting awareness to the pandemic of interpersonal violence, the Save Wiyabi Project highlights legislation that is beneficial to reservations and empowers Native women.

The Re-authorization of the Violence Against Women Act and the SAVE Native Women Act are two pieces of legislation that would greatly aid reservations and Native women who are victims of sexual and domestic violence. Please contact your Senators and encourage them to support both.

The holiday season is upon us, which means it’s time for SAFER and V-Day’s second annual Winter Break Challenge. We know what student activists are against. Now we want to know what you’re for.

This winter break, SAFER and V-Day are asking you to participate in the Campus Accountability Project (CAP) to hold your school accountable for preventing and responding to sexual violence on your campus. Register at and submit your school’s sexual assault policy to the CAP database using an easy, step-by-step policy review form. CAP helps you identify the gaps in your school’s policy and inspires concrete ideas for action on your campus.

Currently, the CAP database houses 233 policies in an online, public and searchable database, which details what colleges and universities are doing to prevent, reduce and respond to sexual violence. The database publicly recognizes the successes of some schools’ sexual assault policies while also highlighting flaws. For the Winter Break Challenge, SAFER and V-Day are asking current students and recent alums to submit their schools into the CAP database to reach a goal of 300 published policies. Soon we’ll be able to look at all of the schools in the database and report back on trends across the country—your participation is key part of this national conversation. 

Spread the word =)

Help Students Active For Ending Rape (SAFER) provide college students with a campus SAFE from sexual assault and non-accountability!

This past year, SAFER was proud to train and support activists at the New School during their movement towards successfully reforming  their college sexual assault policy. These students know how crucial it is to have that supportive ally to assist them through the end. This is exactly the kind of consistent guidance that SAFER’s trainings and free Activist Mentoring Program provide students throughout their policy reform campaigns. 

This fall we already have four schools lined up for trainings and on campus sexual assault and organizing. The demand for our trainings and mentoring is quickly growing and we need your help to meet this increasing need. We need your help to reach our goal of raising $7,000 to ensure that we are accessible to all students who want to work with us.

For over 10 years, SAFER has been supporting student activists across the country as they fight for better sexual assault policies on their college campus. As an organization whose roots originated from Columbia University students fighting for change on their campus, we know how vital widespread support is to the success of a campaign.

 Will you help SAFER continue to be an ally to future student activists?

From activist trainings, to our free mentoring program and Activist Resource Center, to the SAFER/V-Day Campus Accountability Project, we have been working hard to create and provide the tools students need to bring lasting change to their campuses. Show your support and help us reach our goal of $7,000 raised to fund activism at its roots.

by Jessica Valenti

Excerpt - 

Despite decades of work by feminists, the myth that women somehow deserve sexual harassment and assault hasn’t died. When graduate student Imette St. Guillen was found raped and beaten to death in New York City in 2006, for example, the Wall Street Journal ran an article headlined, Ladies, You Should Know Better, referring to the fact that St. Guillen had been at a bar before she was attacked. When Julian Assange was accused of rape in 2010, even progressive “heroes” like Michael Moore and iconic feminist Naomi Wolf rushed to his defense. Wolf wrote a series of mocking pieces for the Huffington Post claiming that Assange’s accusers were simply women scorned and also claimed, outrageously, that starting to have sex with someone while they are asleep and unable to consent is not rape. Perhaps most disgusting was conservative blogger Robert McCain’s response: “Listen up, sweetheart: You buy the ticket, you take the ride.”

Despite the onslaught of victim-blaming and the downright apathy that surrounds the harassment and violence still done to women, I feel (dare I say it?) optimistic once more. I’m fortunate to be part of a generation of activists—men and women alike—who are fighting back in new and innovative ways. When Moore and Wolf took to the airwaves to defend Assange, Twitter erupted with campaigns to hold them accountable. Now when newspapers run victim-blaming headlines, there are thousands of feminist blogs to hold their feet to the fire. Students Active for Ending Rape (SAFER), an organization run mostly by young women, puts pressure on college administrations to enact progressive and accountable sexual assault policies. Hollaback!, which started as a blog where women posted pictures of their harassers via cellphones, is now a flourishing anti-harassment organization with outposts all over the world.

Since you were talking about colleges ... I was wondering if you or any of your followers have any suggestions on how to counter a dangerous rape culture that involves professors sexually harassing students and getting away with it because none of the students will come forward and the dean won't punish the guilty parties. This sort of thing is running rampant at the honors college at my school and there seems to be literally nothing anyone [who isn't a direct victim] can do about it ... Advice?
newwavefeminism newwavefeminism Said:


I work with this non-profit called Safer Campus and they have a ton of resources dealing with campus rape culture. Their “about us”

Students Active for Ending Rape (SAFER) is the only organization that fights sexual violence and rape culture by empowering student-led campaigns to reform college sexual assault policies. An all-volunteer collective, SAFER facilitates student organizing through a comprehensive training manual; in-person workshops and trainingsfree follow-up mentoring; ourCampus Sexual Assault Policies Database; and a growing online resource library and network for student organizers. SAFER firmly believes that sexual violence is both influenced by and contributes to multiple forms of oppression, including racism, sexism, and homo/transphobia, and view our anti-sexual violence work through a broader anti-oppression lens.

So you can try to go through any of those means to try and hold your campus accountable and find resources. But more importantly there is a SAFER blog. I feel as though if you get enough people to come together, or find a campus newspaper article about what’s going on campus - you can maybe spread the word about whats going on and apply outside pressure!

Keep me updated on what goes on!