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A quasi-academic look at Feminism, politics & race relations through the lens of a 20-something year old Nigerian American who was born & raised up in the (still) segregated south but has relocated to the "liberal" yet historic & traditional north.
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There is a problem when the dominant narrative within pornography is one that devalues or dismisses women’s enthusiastic consent and/or women’s pleasure when it comes to sexual experiences. The problem isn’t with these acts being committed or shown, but merely how often they are shown and how little deviation there is. When the only message is one of male dominance - one solely of male pleasure - that is when it becomes an issue. There is no variety in the message portrayed, so this not only leaves women’s interests off the table, it leads to the aforementioned reinforcement of dominant patriarchal notions of how sex works in our society, and thus perpetuates male dominance in itself. It’s one thing to have a sexual preference, it’s another thing to posit that one particular sex act as the norm or the standard through sheer oversaturation of the porn market.


There’s a ton of interesting info in this graphic, but it’s especially striking how condom use decreases with age, even with casual partners. Condoms shouldn’t be something you grow out of as you get older — the protection they offer against STDs is unrivaled by any other form of birth control besides abstinence! Your high school sweetheart may not be in your life anymore, but condoms should be. 


Racism in America’s police force is linked to their role as keepers of the status quo in an unequal society. They enforce laws written by politicians on behalf of the wealthy — laws that end up trapping poor and working-class people in desperate lives. Racial and sexual minorities, legal and illegal immigrants are seen as threats to the social order. When we protest the law and “occupy” a space we are beaten and arrested. When we commit a crime to “get some” we are beaten and arrested. And when we do neither but simply live we’re busted to make a cop’s stop-and-frisk quota.



Much like the how the U.S.’s appetite for narcotics fuels the War on Drugs another illicit multi-billion dollar market booms — sex.

Sex tourism in Latin American and the Caribbean has grown alongside the formal tourist industry at an alarming rate.  Each year millions of men AND women from the western world travel south looking to get their groove on and their groove back.

by Anne Koedt

Here is a link to the entire text explaining the Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm. I’m going to summarize my understanding of this but I advise you to click through to read the entire article.

Essentially the vaginal orgasm is labeled a “myth” created by the patriarchy because the vaginal intercourse is apparently not the most efficient way for a woman to achieve orgasm. BUT its the only type of “sex” deemed legitimate and taught about. Its placed in the position as the IDEAL simply because it is the idea position for (heterosexual) men to achieve orgasm - but because of the clitoris don’t actually NEED a penis to achieve orgasm. But clitoral stimulation is rarely talked or taught because… that threatens the surpremacy of the penis!

Therefore, all intercourse that isn’t a penis penetrating a vagina is automatically deemed “not real sex”. Even in medical texts that talk about sex, the Vagina is written off as passive while the penis is seen as running the show - when even on a biological level both organs do a lot of work.

anywho read the whole article!

“The stain of racism and sexism is not just for women and people of color. It’s all of our burdens. ALL OF US.” -Viola Davis
You are not “all for gay rights” if you follow it with a “but, we should shield children from you and your devious sexuality because otherwise they will be confused and fucked up forever.”



This issue recently came to my attention (its not a new one, but it has happened to resurface) and it completely bothered me that the (cis) male sexual partner involved was so ignorant.

Most women do not reach orgasm solely through penetration. This article on Women’s Health Mag claims that only 25% of women having penis/vagina intercourse are having orgasms (according to most major surveys, this 25% is most likely an average). The rest of us, however, cannot achieve the “big O” solely through penetration - we need extra stimulation.

So when someone pops off and tells you that it is “abnormal” that you didn’t orgasm when all they did was fuck you (via penetration only), please remember that it is a statistical improbability that they have been so lucky that all their previous (cis) female sexual partners were able to attain orgasm through penetration alone.

This is why people shouldn’t see porn as their guide to sex.  

taking a class on feminist theories of sexuality this semester… EXCITED

(via manif3stlove)


THE PURITY MYTH: The Virginity Movement’s War Against Women

In this video adaptation of her bestselling book, pioneering feminist blogger Jessica Valenti trains her sights on “the virginity movement” — an unholy alliance of evangelical Christians, right-wing politicians, and conservative policy intellectuals who have been exploiting irrational fears about women’s sexuality to roll back women’s rights. From dad-and-daughter “purity balls,” taxpayer-funded abstinence-only curricula, and political attacks on Planned Parenthood, to recent attempts by legislators to de-fund women’s reproductive health care and narrow the legal definition of rape, Valenti identifies a single, unifying assumption: the myth that the worth of a woman depends on what she does — or does not do — sexually. In the end, Valenti argues that the health and well-being of women are too important to be left to ideologues bent on vilifying feminism and undermining women’s autonomy.

I’ve personally read the book, and as someone who put up with four years of bullshit abstinence-only “sex education” (or, as I like to call it, “fear inducing propaganda”), I completely agree with her stance on this issue. I have yet to see the documentary, but I plan to. In the mean time, I am slowly reading my way through the transcript (and I’m loving it so far). I definitely recommend checking it out. 

Link to transcript (here). Watch a full length preview (here).

(via thenewwomensmovement)

The mainstream media is ripe with oversexualized images of women of color, and policy often stigmatized and shames this same group of people. Women of color and poor women are blamed for their inability to keep their legs closed and for having too many children. For marginalized groups of women, sex is not linked to pleasure and freedom; it is demonized and used as an example of all the ways in which these women lack self-control. As a result, a lot of conversation around sexual freedom discount the experience of people of color, failing to take into account how much sexual freedom is assumed to hinge on a woman’s privilege—be it because of her race, economic status, or social standing.

Of course, not all women of color are sexualized in the same way. For example, while black women are considered lascivious, always consenting and out of control, Latina[s] are considered exotic or overly sensual and Asian women are considered childish and prude. These particular stereotypes are reinforced through popular culture and pornography (just Google respectively “Asian women,” “black women,” or “Latina women” and then “women” and see what comes up). The common thread here is that nonwhite women’s sexuality is seen as outside the norm of white heterosexuality. It’s therefore something to uniquely desired, manipulated, exploited or controlled. Within this rather toxic climate, being a woman of color who’s in touch with her sexuality is an act of resistance. Pushing past the negative media depictions and still finding a healthy, healing, erotic, and functional sexuality is no small feat.

I have often felt trapped between discourses of sexuality. If I’m overtly sexual, I’m a threat to what it means to be a good, pious South Asian lady and to the white norms of sexuality. As a result, when I am sexual, I am confronting my ethnic community and the norms of white sexuality. Finding a more authentic sexuality that’s just me means pushing past what is considered the appropriate way for me to be sexual based on my race, ethnicity, and gender. This has meant a lot of experimentation, sometimes playing up how “bad” I am or being tremendously secretive about my sexual transgressions (well, clearly not after this book). And it meant sifting through partners and figuring out which ones are a little too obsessed with my being Indian.”

Samhita Mukhopadhyay’s Outdated: Why Dating Is Ruining Your Love Life

Found via: Racialicious 

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Female orgasm is a different story. Shhh, don’t talk about that – it makes people uncomfortable. Think about it—how many slang terms for female orgasm can you think of? Can you make a list? Are there mainstream movies that depict or discuss girls or women masturbating? Although I can think of a few exceptions (Pleasantville, The OH in Ohio), if female masturbation occurs in mainstream films, it is often told from a male pornographic fantasy perspective (e.g., American Pie). Such media depictions suggest that men have uncontrollable sexual drives, (which, apparently, women do not) that must be satisfied immediately by any means necessary. Unlike men’s, women’s sexual desires are peripheral to our conversations about sex and sexuality.