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A quasi-academic look at Feminism, politics & race relations through the lens of a 20-something year old Nigerian American who was born & raised up in the (still) segregated south but has relocated to the "liberal" yet historic & traditional north.
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Posts tagged "rape"

from the article:

The documentary “The Invisible War” premiered last week at Sundance, and it is already bringing much needed attention to the problem of rape in the military. Watching clips from the film last fall, I found the experience harrowing. I was struck by the sense of betrayal as well as violation that too many women, and a smaller number of men, encounter when they sign up to protect the national interest. It is just really hard to watch one after another woman tell us how she was assaulted, how authorities failed to protect her both before and after the attack, and how post-traumatic stress disrupts every attempt to rebuild her life. As tough as it is to witness, though, it has to be harder to live, and more witnesses are clearly needed to pressure military leaders to act. Their failure to do so is unforgivable, in a time when a woman is more likely to be raped by an American soldier than killed by enemy fire.

what lesson can we learn from this? Powerful institutions love to cover up rape/mistreatment and neglect the necessary steps needed to stop these atrocities from happening… from colleges to prisons to even the military. Is maintaining the reputation of the military at home and abroad WORTH sacrificing the dignity of the people who put their lives aside to sign up for these institutions? short answer: yes. These are fundamental flaws that can only really be changed when we have higher awareness of not only the problem but WHY the problem is not being dealt with - no one likes accusing institutional state apparatuses of corruption or wrongdoing. Thus, institutions are going to keep making up their own rules and practices until we stop being afraid to question them at their core.

another interesting things brought up in the article is the lack of WOC represented in the story:

The film itself features no women of color among the major protagonists. I don’t know why that is, and I won’t speculate. I do know that thousands of young women of color join the military every year; it isn’t possible that they could escape a fate that affects so many soldiers. I bet women of color are disproportionately affected by sexual assault, as they were by Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and, as we reported earlier this week, by homelessness when they return stateside as veterans. I hope that advocates working on this issue take into account additional or just different barriers faced by women of color. Putting proposed remedies through a racial equity impact analysis may help with that.

This causes me to wonder, is it easier to gain support for a movement that utilizes only a CERTAIN imagery of “womanhood” and female enlisters? Is there something about seeing white victimization that garners concern and action that we lose when WOC are put into the picture?
Is anyone more familiar with this movie who would like to share their thoughts?

Sh*t Everybody Says To Rape Victims [TW]

Was not expecting to see this, but I’m glad it exists. I really hope this meme sticks around for a while, so many perspectives are using it as a medium to explain their daily lived experiences.

Watch and discuss

A look through western history reveals the different stages of black, female identity. There was the black woman as a sexual object: explorers looking for the New World would often stop in Africa and tell stories of their exploits with the indigenous women.  Back when the west viewed Africa as the “dark continent,” West African women were regularly greeted by western explorers, taken and raped.  Later on the black woman was a slave, and held the burden of her masters sexual object, housekeeper and servant. After emancipation, as black men were able to vote and fight for their citizenship, women of color stayed in the homes of white women, taking responsibility over the upkeep of white children and white households. Today, black womanhood is still plagued by these stigmas. Popular culture still restricts black women to the roles of sexual object, servant, and housekeeper. She is at the disposal of everyone else, while still needing to establish her own identity and self worth. 

ASCOSA: A UK-based organization for adult male survivors of child sexual abuse

Male Survivor: A comprehensive site on male victimization, including a message board and healing weekends of recovery

Menweb: Male child sexual abuse

Survivors Manchester: Supporting male survivors of sexual abuse and rape

Further resources

If you are in crisis and need someone to talk to, or if you need advice, then the following helplines may be useful:

Male Rape Support Association: 07932 898274
AMSOSA: 0845 4309371
Childline (Under 18): 0800 1111
Men’s Advice Line - 0808 801 0327 (For men in abusive relationship)

RAINN: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) (for male and female survivors)
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-888-7HELPLINE (for men and women)

Mensline: 1300789978
Men’s Domestic Violence Helpline: 08 9223 1199

Other helplines can be found here.


I want to graffiti that headline EVERYWHERE.

(via thenewwomensmovement)

The holiday season is upon us, which means it’s time for SAFER and V-Day’s second annual Winter Break Challenge. We know what student activists are against. Now we want to know what you’re for.

This winter break, SAFER and V-Day are asking you to participate in the Campus Accountability Project (CAP) to hold your school accountable for preventing and responding to sexual violence on your campus. Register at and submit your school’s sexual assault policy to the CAP database using an easy, step-by-step policy review form. CAP helps you identify the gaps in your school’s policy and inspires concrete ideas for action on your campus.

Currently, the CAP database houses 233 policies in an online, public and searchable database, which details what colleges and universities are doing to prevent, reduce and respond to sexual violence. The database publicly recognizes the successes of some schools’ sexual assault policies while also highlighting flaws. For the Winter Break Challenge, SAFER and V-Day are asking current students and recent alums to submit their schools into the CAP database to reach a goal of 300 published policies. Soon we’ll be able to look at all of the schools in the database and report back on trends across the country—your participation is key part of this national conversation. 

Spread the word =)

SAFER, a great non-profit based out of NYC, is nearing the end of their online fundraising campaign with about $1,500 shy of reaching their goal. Check out the campaign, visit their website, and spread the word!

Students Active For Ending Rape (SAFER) began in 2000 as a group of students at Columbia University who led the campus in a grassroots campaign to reform the school’s sexual assault policy. More than ten years later, SAFER is a national nonprofit organization that empowers students across the country to change how their colleges prevent and respond to sexual assault. A volunteer-led organization, SAFER facilitates student organizing through a comprehensive training manual (PDF); in-person workshops and trainings; free follow-up mentoring; our SAFER/V-Day Campus Accountability Project Database; and a growing online resource library for student organizers.

Visit our website to read more about SAFER and its history.

What We Need & What You Get

With your help, we can raise $7,000. By helping us expand our capacity, your donation will help pay for:

  • mentors that provide FREE one-on-one guidance to student activists;
  • bringing trainers to the schools of student activists across the country;
  • educating college staff and students about the unique dynamics of sexual assault on college campuses;
  • allowing student groups of ANY budget to bring SAFER to campus.

by Jessica Valenti

Excerpt - 

Despite decades of work by feminists, the myth that women somehow deserve sexual harassment and assault hasn’t died. When graduate student Imette St. Guillen was found raped and beaten to death in New York City in 2006, for example, the Wall Street Journal ran an article headlined, Ladies, You Should Know Better, referring to the fact that St. Guillen had been at a bar before she was attacked. When Julian Assange was accused of rape in 2010, even progressive “heroes” like Michael Moore and iconic feminist Naomi Wolf rushed to his defense. Wolf wrote a series of mocking pieces for the Huffington Post claiming that Assange’s accusers were simply women scorned and also claimed, outrageously, that starting to have sex with someone while they are asleep and unable to consent is not rape. Perhaps most disgusting was conservative blogger Robert McCain’s response: “Listen up, sweetheart: You buy the ticket, you take the ride.”

Despite the onslaught of victim-blaming and the downright apathy that surrounds the harassment and violence still done to women, I feel (dare I say it?) optimistic once more. I’m fortunate to be part of a generation of activists—men and women alike—who are fighting back in new and innovative ways. When Moore and Wolf took to the airwaves to defend Assange, Twitter erupted with campaigns to hold them accountable. Now when newspapers run victim-blaming headlines, there are thousands of feminist blogs to hold their feet to the fire. Students Active for Ending Rape (SAFER), an organization run mostly by young women, puts pressure on college administrations to enact progressive and accountable sexual assault policies. Hollaback!, which started as a blog where women posted pictures of their harassers via cellphones, is now a flourishing anti-harassment organization with outposts all over the world.

Not being assaulted is not a privilege to be earned through the judicious application of personal safety strategies. A woman should be able to walk down the street at 4 in the morning in nothing but her socks, blind drunk, without being assaulted, and I, for one, am not going to do anything to imply that she is in any way responsible for her own assault if she fails to Adequately Protect Herself. Men aren’t helpless dick-driven maniacs who can’t help raping a vulnerable woman. It disrespects EVERYONE.

Emily Nagoski. no idea who she is, but i thank her. there is no excuse for rape and anyone who excuses it is insulting both the victim and the rapist. (via rapeisnotajoke)

There are two arguments I’ve noticed

  1. "Women should prepare themselves better if they don’t want to get raped"
  2. ALL MEN AREN’T RAPISTS/Its not fair that women accuse me of being a rapist/i get called creepy all the time

So basically we have to prepare ourselves all the time, but if we ever give a man the sense that we view them as a misogynistic/violent threat - that’s unfair


(via squeetothegee-deactivated201111)


This guy was awesome, he even wore a mini-skirt. Rape prevention tip: use the buddy system! If you’re not able to stop yourself from sexually assaulting people, ask a friend to stay with you while you’re in public!

(via safercampus)

Provided by @NSVRC [National Sexual Violence Resource Center]

via @theconsensual [the consensual project] & @safercampus the SAFER Campus twitter!

All interesting projects you should take a look at

When wars are declared, everyone involved in the declaration assumes women will be raped. Invading soldiers do not necessarily rape women to hurt us, per se. Women are raped to stymie the moral of husbands, fathers, and sons. Women’s bodies are considered solely in regard to how they affect men. In the context of war, rape literally plants the seed of the invader in the body of a people. The secret weapon of war is spiritually crippling an entire nation of human beings and generations to come by sexually assaulting as many women and girls as possible.

Cunt:  A Declaration of Independence. (via ratsandcandy666)

And as I’ve read, now and maybe always, sometimes men as well.

(via strugglingtobeheard)

I remember reading testimonials from veterans from… I believe Vietnam - who were horrified at the monster they became during wartime and how much they dehumanized, pillages and raped entire villages. If i find excerpts i’ll send them along…

(via strugglingtobeheard)

A great article over at the SAFER Campus blog. An excerpt:

The bad news is, there isn’t one test to tell when someone is too intoxicated to consent to sex. (Well, maybe there is—one could make an argument about blood alcohol content perhaps, but college students don’t carry breathalyzers last time I checked so let’s move along). And so when we talk about alcohol and consent, it’s a conversation about open communication with your partner if they’ve been drinking—checking in with them, making sure they are enthusiastically, affirmatively consenting to whatever you’re doing together. Clearly people are sometimes going to get drunk and have sex. And the presence of alcohol in someone’s bloodstream does not automatically make it rape. But there’s a spectrum of intoxication. If someone is physically impaired by their drinking (or drug use), you can tell. They are getting sick, their body is limp, they’re not able to communicate clearly with you. It’s a common sense situation. If it’s less obvious, you know they have been drinking but you’re not sure how much and they seem OK, that’s where communication is key, and honestly—if it’s unclear how drunk your partner is and you feel conflicted, then maybe just play it safe and don’t do it. Instincts are there for a reason. You’ll have another chance to have sex, but sexual assault is permanent. 

Despite the intense efforts of many agencies and organizations, and numerous inspiring successes, the picture is still disheartening, as it takes far more than changes in law or stated policy to change practices in the home,community and in the decision-making environment. In many parts of the world rape is not considered a crime, goes unpunished and continues to be used as a tool of war. Even in highly developed countries, violence
against women of all kinds is routine, and often condoned A pregnant woman in Africa is 180 times more likely to die of pregnancy complications than in western Europe. Women, mostly in rural areas, represent more than two-thirds of the world’s illiterate adults. In the United States, 90% of AIDS cases under 20 years of age are girls.
In many developed countries, where basic gender equality appears to have been achieved, the battlefront has shifted to removing the more intangible discrimination against working women. Women still hold only 15.6% of elected parliamentary seats globally.

World Economic Forum - Women’s Empowerment: Measuring the Global Gender Gap

More accurate statistics on the global gender gap, courtesy of natures-song


Hey ya’ll - I’ll be heading out of town to Kenya in a few weeks where I’ll be able to pick up a lot of tokens of appreciation (statutes, jewelry, t-shirts, paintings!) bought to support local Kenyans who are trying to support themselves.

Please take the time to donate if you can! I will be bringing some stuff back to sell online, but going to the markets with a better idea in mind of what to bring back would be awesome.


As you may already know, I serve on the board of directors for a nonprofit known as SAFER. It has been an honour to volunteer for and help run this organization for two years. Each board member makes a commitment to raise money for this awesome org each year and I have been unable to meet my commitments the past two years.

Please help me make my goal this year.

I am lucky enough that they have still let me serve on the board despite providing near non-existent financial contributions, but I also want to give in other ways. If you can, please consider donating through Paypal or Google Checkout.

I also want to stress that I will personally give a token of my appreciation to every person who donates.

I will be visiting my family in Kenya next month (August), so I would be more than happy to pick up write you a postcard, a letter, send you jewelry, send you a painting, etc.

I also would be more than happy to write you a blog post regarding a topic of your liking. Everyone will get a personal token of appreciation from me!

Thanks to everyone for being such a great supporter, even if you cannot donate. :) Feel free to reblog to spread the word!

Raise money for a great cause and get a little big of Kenyan culture too? Any little bit counts!