A look through western history reveals the different stages of black, female identity. There was the black woman as a sexual object: explorers looking for the New World would often stop in Africa and tell stories of their exploits with the indigenous women. Back when the west viewed Africa as the “dark continent,” West African women were regularly greeted by western explorers, taken and raped. Later on the black woman was a slave, and held the burden of her masters sexual object, housekeeper and servant. After emancipation, as black men were able to vote and fight for their citizenship, women of color stayed in the homes of white women, taking responsibility over the upkeep of white children and white households. Today, black womanhood is still plagued by these stigmas. Popular culture still restricts black women to the roles of sexual object, servant, and housekeeper. She is at the disposal of everyone else, while still needing to establish her own identity and self worth.
ASCOSA: A UK-based organization for adult male survivors of child sexual abuse
Male Survivor: A comprehensive site on male victimization, including a message board and healing weekends of recovery
Menweb: Male child sexual abuse
Survivors Manchester: Supporting male survivors of sexual abuse and rape
If you are in crisis and need someone to talk to, or if you need advice, then the following helplines may be useful:
Male Rape Support Association: 07932 898274
AMSOSA: 0845 4309371
Childline (Under 18): 0800 1111
Men’s Advice Line - 0808 801 0327 (For men in abusive relationship)
RAINN: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673) (for male and female survivors)
Domestic Violence Helpline: 1-888-7HELPLINE (for men and women)
Men’s Domestic Violence Helpline: 08 9223 1199
Other helplines can be found here.
Emily Nagoski. no idea who she is, but i thank her. there is no excuse for rape and anyone who excuses it is insulting both the victim and the rapist. (via rapeisnotajoke)
There are two arguments I’ve noticed
So basically we have to prepare ourselves all the time, but if we ever give a man the sense that we view them as a misogynistic/violent threat - that’s unfair
Cunt: A Declaration of Independence. (via ratsandcandy666)
And as I’ve read, now and maybe always, sometimes men as well.
I remember reading testimonials from veterans from… I believe Vietnam - who were horrified at the monster they became during wartime and how much they dehumanized, pillages and raped entire villages. If i find excerpts i’ll send them along…
More accurate statistics on the global gender gap, courtesy of natures-song
Hey ya’ll - I’ll be heading out of town to Kenya in a few weeks where I’ll be able to pick up a lot of tokens of appreciation (statutes, jewelry, t-shirts, paintings!) bought to support local Kenyans who are trying to support themselves.
Please take the time to donate if you can! I will be bringing some stuff back to sell online, but going to the markets with a better idea in mind of what to bring back would be awesome.
As you may already know, I serve on the board of directors for a nonprofit known as SAFER. It has been an honour to volunteer for and help run this organization for two years. Each board member makes a commitment to raise money for this awesome org each year and I have been unable to meet my commitments the past two years.
Please help me make my goal this year.
I am lucky enough that they have still let me serve on the board despite providing near non-existent financial contributions, but I also want to give in other ways. If you can, please consider donating through Paypal or Google Checkout.
I also want to stress that I will personally give a token of my appreciation to every person who donates.
I will be visiting my family in Kenya next month (August), so I would be more than happy to pick up write you a postcard, a letter, send you jewelry, send you a painting, etc.
I also would be more than happy to write you a blog post regarding a topic of your liking. Everyone will get a personal token of appreciation from me!
Thanks to everyone for being such a great supporter, even if you cannot donate. :) Feel free to reblog to spread the word!
Raise money for a great cause and get a little big of Kenyan culture too? Any little bit counts!