So lately I’ve discovered that not only does the school I teach at have zero systems in place to teach their middle school students about health & sexual education - but that these students are becoming hypersexualized without a full context of what’s going on. I hear boys ask girls invasive/inappropriate questions during class and am at a loss. How do you teach young girls that their bodies belong to them and others are not entitled to touch and rate as they wish? How do you teach young boys that your manhood isn’t defined by how many girls you violate and disrespect?
This is the age where a lot of messages are internalized without fully understanding their impact and it’s even worse when adults just turn a blind eye and ignore these things because “welp, it isn’t my problem, so and so’s department needs to figure it out.”
I would love any resources people may know of, used, or seen in passing about middle school sexual education - but more importantly consent education. I hear a lot about us needing to teach consent - but has anyone actually taken the next step and developed lessons/programming on these topics?
We already know that poor communities of color lack resources that would otherwise provide such education - so we need to do something and spread this information around!
Thanks in advance!
Our community, much like society-at-large, needs a paradigm shift as it relates to our sexual assault prevention efforts. For so long all of our energy has been directed at women, teaching them to be more “ladylike” and to not be “promiscuous” to not drink too much or to not wear a skirt. Newsflash: men don’t decide to become rapists because they spot a woman dressed like a video vixen or because a girl has been sexually assertive.
How about we teach young men when a woman says stop, they stop? How about we teach young men that when a woman has too much to drink that they should not have sex with her, if for no other reason but to protect themselves from being accused of a crime? How about we teach young men that when they see their friends doing something inappropriate to intervene or to stop being friends? The culture that allows men to violate women will continue to flourish so long as there is no great social consequence for men who do so.