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Posts tagged "rape culture"

When I was in college, students had a real self righteous indignant pushback to any type of sexual assault, rape culture awareness anything. Acting as though an issue was being invented and shoved down the throats of well-meaning do-gooder college students who are being unfairly made to feel feelings about sexual assault.

Meanwhile, across the country, colleges become actual social ecosystems where rape culture and sexual assault and systematic and protected, developed and reproduced on an institutional level.

and when these bright eyed and bushy tailed entitled students finish their 4 years, they are released off into the world to assault and potentially ruin the lives of the rest of us.

The rape culture & higher education are dangerous duos. Both are intrinsically linked to power and privilege. Rape culture is shielded by the institution, and the institution is shielded by the Dept of Ed.

This is an important step but there needs to be a solid follow through.

To attribute the rehabilitation of R. Kelly as a musical hero to his music alone would be lazy. I believe who his victims have been — and, crucially, what they look like — plays a massive part in our collective willingness to embrace a predator. They were all little black girls.

Recently a trending topic on Twitter called #fasttailgirls was started by @karnythia and moderated by @hoodfeminism. It discussed the sexualization of young black girls and how, due to no fault of their own, young black girls are made responsible when their bodies are violated. In this context the victims are criminalized and chastised, and the perpetrators valorized.

As I read the trending topic and watched women boldly share their truth, it occurred to me why R. Kelly’s comeback disturbs me so much. If R. Kelly’s victims had looked different, had fit the archetype of what we believe victims typically look like (whiter, blonder and more in line with what we’re taught to associate with innocence), maybe there would be uproar.

The bodies that R. Kelly has violated belong to girls we do not believe are worthy of protection or uproar. In fact we’re taught to believe this type of girl “asked for it” or did something to warrant her abuse.

I like what this Army officer had to say about sexual harassment in the military.

Thanks for the submission! Anti-feminist theory vs. actual REAL LIFE.

It’s sad because these ignorant school aged boys grow up to become people who make and impact policy, media and culture…

Imagine the people who serve who don’t have access to Majors who actually have a clue and work to maintain basic aspects of human dignity.

I’m thrilled that it’s becoming a (not fast spreading enough) trend to investigate colleges for how they deal with sexual assault in house.

For anyone in college or about to start college here’s a quick sexual assault bulletin - It is against a college’s perceived best interest to deal with sexual assault in the full force they deserve.

Let me break down a few things:

  1. Colleges, especially private ones (which is my personal point of reference) operate on their own judicial system. Never ever assume that turning over an investigation to college officials is what you ought to do, or your only option. You don’t want the same system that punished honor code violations and dorm vandilization to handle someone who rapes/attempts to rape you. YOUR SCHOOL ISN’T LAW ENFORCEMENT.
  2. Colleges may try to convince you to let them handle a situation in house as oppose to going to the police. Or they may even fail to bring up the police as an option, hoping you will assume that its included in them handling a problem.
  3. If your school “prosecutes” your assailant and they get off either scott free or with a stupid punishment - YOU CAN ALWAYS GO TO THE *REAL* POLICE. Don’t think it’s over because they administration pretends it’s over.
  4. If anything ever happens, CALL THE POLICE FIRST, not campus safety or whatever rent-a-cop service your campus has that will be all “oh, but didn’t you go to that all-campus party tonight? and don’t you have all these drinking violations?”
  5. SAFER: Students Active For Ending Rape. is a non-profit geared toward empowering college students to fight against sexual assault on campus. Their websites has great resources. Look around.

If there’s anything I hope you take away from this post is: don’t trust college/university officials to handle a sexual assault issue as though they were law enforcement. Proceed with your case in whichever way makes you feel most comfortable (maybe calling the police isn’t easy for everyone) but if at any case you feel like your college is pulling shenanigans on your case - the police is always an option and your right!

So lately I’ve discovered that not only does the school I teach at have zero systems in place to teach their middle school students about health & sexual education - but that these students are becoming hypersexualized without a full context of what’s going on. I hear boys ask girls invasive/inappropriate questions during class and am at a loss. How do you teach young girls that their bodies belong to them and others are not entitled to touch and rate as they wish? How do you teach young boys that your manhood isn’t defined by how many girls you violate and disrespect?

This is the age where a lot of messages are internalized without fully understanding their impact and it’s even worse when adults just turn a blind eye and ignore these things because “welp, it isn’t my problem, so and so’s department needs to figure it out.”

I would love any resources people may know of, used, or seen in passing about middle school sexual education - but more importantly consent education. I hear a lot about us needing to teach consent - but has anyone actually taken the next step and developed lessons/programming on these topics? 

We already know that poor communities of color lack resources that would otherwise provide such education - so we need to do something and spread this information around! 

Thanks in advance!

Today’s topics: war (women in combat), abortion, homelessness

Rape is on the increase, reported and unreported, and rape is not aggressive sexuality, it is sexualized aggression. As Kalamu ya Salaam, a Black male writer points out, “As long as male domination exists, rape will exist. Only women revolting and men made conscious of their responsibility to fight sexism can collectively stop rape.”

Its all pretty telling, but particularly sections 2, 6 & 8

From the article:

According to my mother, black women’s bodies were often battlegrounds for opponents of civil rights. She specified that while all demonstrators were in danger of being attacked, women were often specifically targeted. She explained that the thugs (civilians and so-called law enforcement officers) who battered her and her female counterparts often exacerbated their attacks to threaten black women’s dignity, and to spark the patriarchal ire of male protesters.

She implied that these white men used violence against black women as a tool to buttress their notions of racial and gender superiority, to flaunt control, and to disrupt the movement’s progress through harassment and intimidation. Moreover, she insisted that routine acts of aggression were seldom met with accountability, which led to a cavalier perpetuation of this form of terror.

Through my mother’s accounts and the stories my father shared about his cousinJoan Little, who bravely defended herself and slayed a white jailer who tried to rape her, I learned about the prevalence of violence against black women leading up to and during the civil rights movement.

While my mother’s experiences and Little’s obviously differ due to the fact that my mother was not sexually assaulted, the common threads are that they both were victims of police cruelty and unchecked systemic violence fueled by a virulently racist and sexist culture.

Through family stories and Danielle L. McGuire’s groundbreaking textAt the Dark End of the Street: Black Women, Rape and Resistance—a New History of the Civil Rights Movement from Rosa Parks to the Rise of Black Power, I strengthened my knowledge about the significance of bearing witness and documenting stories about violence against African American women.  

McGuire’s book details how the “ritualistic rape and intimidation” of black women including Recy TaylorBetty Jean Owens, and Joan Little helped spark the civil rights movement by mobilizing black communities, giving much-needed context to how African American anti-rape activists and organizers such as Rosa Parks and Ida B. Wells inspired their communities to stand up for black women’s bodily integrity.  

Also, if you read The Ethics of Living Jim Crow (i may post about this separately) Richard Wright discusses the fact that in Jim Crow, black women were so ruitinely disrespected, assaulted and degraded that if a white man was degrading a black women, everybody better learn their place real quick and join in or co-sign that shit. Everybody acts like all that stuff is in the past, but then we act surprised when - to this day - WOC are treated the way they are and depicted certain ways in the media. Or they wanna pretend that our constructed hyper-sexualization is *actually* pathological. Our country lived in a SYSTEM where this wasn’t just the norm - it was a brutally enforced expectation. There is no off switch to socialization.

The fact that this is a talking point is utterly disgusting.

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The Melissa Harris-Perry show on “can rape jokes ever be funny?” in relation to the Daniel Tosh fallout. Im super late putting this up but… it starts with a Wanda Sykes clip!


A teenage boy who raped a girl of five was handed a community order by a judge who blamed ‘the world and society’ for his exposure to pornography.

This judge needs to recuse himself from the world

(via thenewwomensmovement)

Wow, sort of upsetting story. California has no law requiring victims to testify, yet the DA simply insisted that she be required and that was enough to lock her up for 25 days and then put an ankle bracelet monitor on her. She’s also a part of the foster care system, so she didn’t even have the privilege of an advocate to fight on her behalf.

Is it justice if you manipulate those with the least means to act as a mere means to your end as oppose to treating them with the respect you give any other victim?

Our community, much like society-at-large, needs a paradigm shift as it relates to our sexual assault prevention efforts. For so long all of our energy has been directed at women, teaching them to be more “ladylike” and to not be “promiscuous” to not drink too much or to not wear a skirt. Newsflash: men don’t decide to become rapists because they spot a woman dressed like a video vixen or because a girl has been sexually assertive.

How about we teach young men when a woman says stop, they stop? How about we teach young men that when a woman has too much to drink that they should not have sex with her, if for no other reason but to protect themselves from being accused of a crime? How about we teach young men that when they see their friends doing something inappropriate to intervene or to stop being friends? The culture that allows men to violate women will continue to flourish so long as there is no great social consequence for men who do so.

Zerlina Maxwell’s piece “Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped.”