
it’s strugglingtobeheard here, trying to reach out to some people that i would like to network with. i have talked about my involvement in the sex work industry. i am a queer genderfluid person who has been involved in this industry for about 6 years, on and off. right now, it is a lot more mild than the club scene i was dealing with in the past. but online camming is still a world of it’s own with the oppressions we face in our in space lives coming into our online lives. and so i want to network with other self-identified qtpoc (especially Black folks) who are involved in this work, either online or offline, who want to create or work together to create some kind of space where we can discuss, share and have some safety to just be us.
right now i am thinking something that is free and easy to start up, such as a password protected twitter, tumblr or facebook group. something along those lines. or even an email list where we can send each other messages. tinychat and gchat options or skype sessions as well. i want to protect people’s privacy, i know this is a big issue, so if you want to chat or collaborate but don’t want to reblog/call attention, i understand. a message marked private might be a good way to start, if you are comfortable.
i don’t have anything concrete yet, but my time at the allied media conference has given me a bit of energy and an idea and the sense that i might as well and see what i can do on my own and build from there. so if you are self-identified qtpoc who is involved in sex work (or seriously considering, maybe… maybe.) then i would love if you signal boost this, contact me, or those who aren’t pass this along to those who might be.
my ultimate dream would to be to set up a way to market ourselves to a qtpoc customer base so we would have less of the stress to deal with in our livings. but this is further down the line. so in the meantime, please signal boost or hit me up if you’d like!! if you don’t feel comfortable doing so or want more info, feel free to also message me in that regard.
I need to go to this media conference next year, all these bloggers came back with so many ideas… signal boost!
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Genderqueer Links and Books
The following are link and book recommendations, all evaluated myself, as helpful resources that relate to genderqueer and non-binary concepts and identities. If there is a resource you would like to suggest, please use the GQID submit form (select Submit a Link from the drop-down or copy and paste a list into the default text box). See also Marilyn Roxie’s genderqueer tag on Delicious. If you are instead looking for the bibliography for the Genderqueer History and Identities project, click here.
Links:
Genderqueer-friendly Tumblrs
Androgynites Unite, Anything But Binary, Ask a Non-Binary, Break the Binary, LGBTQ Advice, Fat Genderqueers!, Fuck Yeah Androgyny!, Fuck Yeah Bigender!, Fuck Yeah Genderless, Fuck Yeah Gender Studies!, Fuck Yeah, Genderqueers!, Fuck Yeah, Transitioning GQs, the gender bender agenda, The Gender Book, Genderforkr, GenderPanic, Gender Queeries, Genderqueer, The Genderqueer Activist, GenderQueer Confessions, Genderqueer Fashionista, Genderqueer Problems, GQ Moments, KNOW Homo, LGBTQ Connections, Neutrois, Nonbinary, Non-binary Artists, Nonbinary Autistics!, Non Binary Confessions, Non-Binary Folk, Non-Op, no gender rules, nullgrade, Practical Androgyny, Queer Dictionary, Smashing the Binary, spectrumofgenders, STFU Binarists, T.R.A.N.S., Transcending Anatomy, Trans*Opinions, Trans* Transgressions, Trans* Tumblr Directory, transbears, TransFess, TRANSPRIDE, ygender[queer]
GQ-friendly Livejournal Communities
Androgynes, Bigender, Birls, Gender Blur, gender_fluid, Genderqueer, Gender.queer_FTW, Girlfags and Guydykes, Transgender
Websites and FAQs
Androgyny Rarely Asked Questions, Chroanagram, Crossdreamers, Genderfork, Genderology, Genderpedia, Genderqueer in the UK, GenderQueer Revolution, Gender Sphere, The Midwest Trans & Queer Wellness Initiative, Nonbinary.org, Non-Op: Another Option, pipisafoat: FAQ on Genderqueers, Gender Expression, and Gender Variance, Practical Androgyny, Questioning Transphobia, T-Vox, We Happy Trans, World Professional Association for Transgender Health, YGender
Organizations and Events: Click here for a list
Forums and Groups
AVEN: Gender Discussion, Forum GenderQueer (Russian), Last.fm: Genderqueers Group, Laura’s Playground, Scarleteen: Gender Issues, Susan’s Place, TransYada, What is Gender?
Identity Sites
Androgyne Online, Bigender, Bi-Gender the Bisexual Partner, GirlFags, Neutrois.com/Neutrois Outpost, Neutrois Nonsense
Prounouns and Titles
Art of Transliness: Gender Neutral Relational Terms, Freelance Writing: The History of the Indefinite Singular Pronoun, Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog, Gender Queeries: Gender Neutral/Queer Titles, Genderqueer in the UK: Misc, or Mx: A Gender-neutral Title, MIT’s Ally Toolkit: Gender Neutral Pronoun Usage, Warren Wilson: Using Gender-Neutral Language in Academic Writing
Articles: Click here for a list
Fun, Videos, Podcasts, & Performance
Agender Earthworm, Facts About Queers (Humor), Fuck Yeah Non-Binary Seahorse, Genderqueer Chat, Gendercast: Our Transmasculine Genderqueery, Gender Queeries,Kreative Korporation: Yay genderform! (a comprehensive and fun-to-play-with list of gender, sex, orientation, and more identities), Midwest Genderqueer, regender: A Different Kind of Translator, Trans Parrotfish, Trans Parrotfish’s Significant Other
Education
Gender Diversity Project, Gender Spectrum: Resources, Queer Teaching Tips, Safe Schools Coalition, TRANScending Identities: A Bibliography of Resources on Transgender and Intersex Topics, Transgender Student Rights, Trans What?: A Guide Towards Allyship
Sex Ed: Click here for a list
The Trevor Project: “The leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services” to LGBT youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) Also available for matters of less pressing urgency, Dear Trevor is an “online, non-time sensitive Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.” A directory of previous questions in the category of Transgender/Genderqueer is also available.
Social Media
Fashion and Transitional Gear: Click here for a list
Banner: This Journal is Gay/Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender, Intersex, Genderqueer, Asexual Positive banner (with flags; without flags). Designed by nethdugan.
Books:
Note: Use Worldcat.org, the world’s largest global library catalog, to see if the book you’re seeking is available at a library near you!
Gender Now Coloring Book - Maya Christina Gonzales
Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us - Kate Bornstein
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation - Kate Bornstein
Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws - Kate Bornstein
My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely - Kate Bornstein
Books and essays by Ivan Coyote
Grrl Alex: A Personal Journey to a Transgender Identity - Alex Drummond
GenderQueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary - Joan Nestle, Riki Wilchins, Clare Howell
Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality - Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel
Queer Theory, Gender Theory - Riki Anne Wilchins
Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender - Riki Anne Wilchins
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (in-progress) - Laura Erickson-Schroth
whatever.odt (free!) - JD O’Meara
Feeling Wrong in Your Own Body: Understanding What It Means to Be Transgender - Jamie A. Seba
That’s Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men - Lori B. Girshick and Jamison Green
Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity - Reid Vanderburgh
(Looking for a list of books concerning gender, sex, and orientation that aren’t genderqueer specific instead? Click here)
Book lists compiled by others:
Bibliography of Books Concerning Androgynes and Androgyny
I’ve updated this yet again on site and used the reblog post format that subtlecluster had put up to share it - keep sharing and suggesting more resources that I should include!
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Lately, I’ve been getting asks asking me to detail why some of the more radical queers are so “anti-marriage equality”. Well, first off, I can’t really speak for everyone in the community, so I’m just going to give my perspective on it. A lot of radical queers aren’t the biggest fans of marriage equality for a number of reasons. Some aren’t seeking state sanction of their lives. Some aren’t interested in what is perceived as a perpetuation of a capitalist, sexist institution under the guise of a union. Some don’t see much legitimacy in marriage equality when there are a number of other issues affecting queers that marriage equality won’t fix.
For me, I think a lot of the issues with the excessive promotion of marriage equality is when people try to make it the main issue of the queer community. It’s when people think that our happiness or our struggle as a community ends when we achieve marriage equality that it becomes a huge issue.
Why?
It implies that achieving the right to marry will somehow erase all of the other struggles we face. It implies that we’re a one-issue movement, which is not the case. I think that’s where the issue arises, which is something I agree with because it’s a foul assumption to make that the right to marry will be the panacea to all of the prejudices we face as a community.
dez-ray, this might help.
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Colorlines: ‘Pariah’ Proves There’s an Audience—and a Hunger—for Real Stories
There’s a scene in Dee Rees’s debut feature film “Pariah” to which almost anyone who’s survived an awkward adolescence can relate. Alike, the film’s 17-year-old protagonist, sits in her high school’s hallway within earshot of a group of pretty, popular girls talking about the things that pretty, popular girls tend to talk about: who kicked it with whom at what party. The conversation creeps around to “AGs” (a slang term, for lesbians who identify as “aggressive”—think butch, but more black). One of the girls casually mentions that some AGs, like Alike, are cute—if only she’d be harder.
Moments like these help bring home one of the Rees’s biggest achievements with the critically acclaimed film: turning what was once taboo (openly gay teens) into something that’s painfully ordinary (kids struggling to fit in). “Pariah,” which opened with an impressive limited release this past weekend, is Rees’s semi-autobiographic tale of a shy but determined teenage poet growing up in middle class Brooklyn. Alike is comfortable enough with her sexuality, but she’s still uncertain of how to wear it. Tougher still is the work that must be done to bring her family and closest friends into the fold, especially when they’re already waging battles against their own personal demons. The film hinges on the belief that there’s no one way to be young, or black, or queer. And while it’s a struggle to come into any identity, those fights are always punctuated by moments of resilience and triumph.
What’s special about “Pariah” is that it, for the most part, successfully tells many stories at once. Alike’s struggle to live openly with her family is the most prominent. But there’s also her socially isolated mother and her bitter, but protective father. And there are the stories that turn on the underreported brutality hundreds of thousands of queer youth of color face each year.
This film has intersectionality, Spike Lee protege’s and people from NIGERIA?!
This gets a NWF stamp of approval.
I can always count on Racialicious to bring interesting shit to my attention
Wait a minute, not all lesbians in movies are white, rich or middle-class with no bills to pay? You mean “life” doesn’t get put on pause so that all gay people can experience the thrill of coming out at summer camp? And, there are other LGBT issues worth talking about besides marriage? Gasp! And Hallelujah for Spike Lee protégé Dee Rees’ Pariah, a film women of color (and other marginalized groups) can truly relate to.
On the surface, Pariah is a coming of age story about an African-American lesbian, Alike (pronounced “Ah-LEE-kay”) in Brooklyn. But dig deeper, and you’ll see a smart and layered tackling of gender, sexuality, religion, and even class — an essential layer of complexity needed to accurately portray the diverse experiences of queer people of color, long been absent from mainstream LGBT films. Rather than depicting homophobia as the only kind of oppression experienced by the LGBT community, Pariah’s world is a varied socio-cultural landscape in motion featuring an all-POC cast, led by Nigerian actress Adepero Oduye’s performance as 17-year old Alike.
In case you missed it, here’s a link to the Pariah Movie Page - check it out
MOONROOT: An Exploration of Asian Womyn’s Bodies
OH MY GOSH! It’s finally here! MOONROOT is an ongoing collective project about race, gender, and bodies created by Sine Hwang Jensen, Amy Dewan, Sun Hashmi, Marilla Li, monna wong, Jess…
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Feminist Necklaces! [all for less than like SEVEN BUCKS!]
For this and more feminist related jewelry visit the Daisy Creations Etsy Shop
submission to me from nappyhappy
I altered the submission to include more pictures of the necklaces offered! They look cool and some have good deals when you buy 3! Check it out… I love inexpensive jewelry with a message!
awesome!
Y’all keep on sending in other great underrated feminist blogs out in the cyberworld! (in case you haven’t notices, i’m very big on independent media and increasing representation)
also, are those the tags one should use to find latina content WITHOUT the porn overload??