Pastor Sean Harris told parents they are “authorized,” and that he was “giving them a special dispensation” to attack their children. “Give them a good punch,” and “crack that wrist,” Harris told parents, if their four-year old boy, for example, “starts acting a little ‘girlish’.” Pastor Harris added that parents should tell their four-year olds to “man up, son, get that dress off you get outside and dig a ditch because that’s what boys do.”
… “Can I make it any clearer? Dads, the second you see that son dropping the limp wrist, you walk over there and crack that wrist. Man up. Give them a good punch. OK? You’re not going to act like that — you were made by God to be a male and you’re going to be a male,” Pastor Harris tells his parishioners. …
“And when your daughter starts acting too ‘butch,’ you rein her in. And you say, ‘Oh no. Oh no, sweetheart. You can play sports. Play ‘em, play ‘em to the glory of God, but sometimes you’re going to act like a girl and talk like a girl and talk like a girl, and smell like a girl, and that means you’re going to be beautiful, you’re going to be attractive, you’re going to dress yourself up’.”
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-Sean Harris is a very bad person.
Here’s the video for direct quotes- http://thenewcivilrightsmovement.com/anti-gay-pastor-parents-must-squash-like-a-cockroach-the-gay-out-of-kids/politics/2012/05/01/38837
I hate people like this. I’m a Christian. I believe that God will be fine with my wrongdoing because I try to be good and I never intentionally hurt anyone.
But this man?
He is evil.
(also he doesn’t seem to get that being gay and being trans are different things)
Lesbian couple kicked out of resturant for kissing
A manager approached the ladies and informed them that their behavior “was inappropriate and we needed to leave the establishment,” because they were making others uncomfortable, but they could return the next day for free drinks.
you’re sexual deviance is upsetting and offensive to the moral patrons at this restaurant, but you are welcome to free drinks… TOMORROW
Just caught this while watching CNN right now. Absolutely ridiculous. An anti-immigration sheriff who produces anti-migrant PSAs is outed by his migrant ex boyfriend… Who says he was threatened with deportation if he ever won’t public*
Wow. So much going on in this one story.
*this is all according to the CNN is reporting. So i’m waiting for more actual facts later on…
[edited to include the link to the story and more deets]
Thoughts?
some of these responses by parents during their interview are [while not surprising] fucking bananas:
This father had noted throughout the interview that his five-year-old son tends to show some attributes he considers feminine. At one point, he mentioned that he sometimes wondered if his son might be gay, and he explained his reaction to that possibility in the following terms: “If [he] were to be gay, it would not make me happy at all. I would probably see that as a failure as a dad as a failure because I’m raising him to be a boy, a man” (white, upper middle-class, heterosexual father). This comment suggests that the parent does not view masculinity as something that naturally unfolds but rather as something he feels responsible for crafting, and he explicitly links hetero sexual orientation to the successful accomplishment of masculinity.
father of the year award, anyone?
Franchesca Ramsey illustrating the absurdity of “no homo”
Vid description:
I think the phrase “no homo” is really dumb, so I came up with a few “no ___” phrases of my own. Any other ideas? What phrases creep you out?
Click to tweet this video! http://clicktotweet.com/yac4f
This episode, what would you do if you see a sketchy “photographer” guy try to convince a few young girls that they can be supermodels… as long as they go back to his house…
the second experiment was also done in a restaurant - in NY as a same sex couple is getting engaged, one of the patrons makes homophobic, hateful remarks. The experiment is to see who actually says something to this guy who starts harassing them
interesting experiment done in a restaurant with actors on the patrons. What would YOU do?
From “There Is No Hierarchy of Oppressions” by Audre Lorde
I was born Black, and a woman. I am trying to become the strongest person I can become to live the life I have been given and to help effect change toward a liveable future for this earth and for my children. As a Black, lesbian, feminist, socialist, poet, mother of two including one boy and a member of an interracial couple, I usually find myself part of some group in which the majority defines me as deviant, difficult, inferior or just plain “wrong.”
From my membership in all of these groups I have learned that oppression and the intolerance of difference come in all shapes and sexes and colors and sexualities; and that among those of us who share the goals of liberation and a workable future for our children, there can be no hierarchies of oppression. I have learned that sexism and heterosexism both arise from the same source as racism.
“Oh,” says a voice from the Black community, “but being Black is NORMAL!” Well, I and many Black people of my age can remember grimly the days when it didn’t used to be!
I simply do not believe that one aspect of myself can possibly profit from the oppression of any other part of my identity. I know that my people cannot possibly profit from the oppression of any other group which seeks the right to peaceful existence. Rather, we diminish ourselves by denying to others what we have shed blood to obtain for our children. And those children need to learn that they do not have to become like each other in order to work together for a future they will all share.
Within the lesbian community I am Black, and within the Black community I am a lesbian. Any attack against Black people is a lesbian and gay issue, because I and thousands of other Black women are part of the lesbian community. Any attack against lesbians and gays is a Black issue, because thousands of lesbians and gay men are Black. There is no hierarchy of oppression.
I cannot afford the luxury of fighting one form of oppression only. I cannot afford to believe that freedom from intolerance is the right of only one particular group. And I cannot afford to choose between the fronts upon which I must battle these forces of discrimination, wherever they appear to destroy me. And when they appear to destroy me, it will not be long before they appear to destroy you
Playing it to the balcony.
excerpt:
The beginning of 2012 feels strangely like 1982, largely because GOP Presidential hopefuls Rick Santorum and Ron Paul have returned to brazen scapegoating of Black people on welfare and people with HIV as a drain on civil society, in order to solidify their base support before last night’s Iowa Caucuses. The scarier part is that it worked.
Though both comments by Paul and Santorum have received a lot of critical press,they seemed to resonate with many Iowa caucus goers: Santorum only lost to Romney by 8 votes, and Paul came in 3rd place.
We’re likely to hear more race-baiting, sexism, AIDS-phobia, homo/transpohbia as the election year continues. Brace yourselves.
America, these are who we allow to become serious contenders for the spot of the PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES
A gay man killed in Cumnock, Ayrshire (Scotland) and then left at the side of the road with “horrific” injuries could have been the victim of a homophobic attack, it has emerged.
I found out about this through Twitter, I feel as though this person’s story deserves to be spread as far as possible.
Homophobia is a central organizing principle of our cultural definition of manhood.
Homophobia is more than the irrational fear of gay men, more than the fear that we might be perceived as gay. […] Our fear is the fear of humiliation. We are ashamed to be afraid.
Shame leads to silence—the silences that keep other people believing that we actually approve of the things that are done to women, to minorities, to gays and lesbians in our culture. […] That clammy-handed silence when guys in the office make gay-bashing jokes.
Our fears are the sources of our silencs, and men’s silence is what keeps the system running.
— Masculinity as Homophobia — Michael S. Kimmel (via teanjellybeans)
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Adrienne Rich, “Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence”, 1980
Hmm… interesting. Especially since i’ve been reading Rich’s work lately. Also interesting considering there are issues of “corrective rape” happening to lesbians in some areas.
I just saw this on CNN. This is what happened when scientists governed by ignorance use their degrees to manipulate parents and americans into blindly following hegemonic and dangerous cultural norms.
from the AC360 blog:
Kirk Murphy was a bright 5-year-old boy, growing up near Los Angeles in the 1970s. He was the middle child, with big brother Mark, 8, and little sister Maris, just a baby at 9 months. Their mother, Kaytee Murphy, remembers Kirk’s kind nature, “He was just very intelligent, and a sweet, sweet, child.” But she was also worried.
“Well, I was becoming a little concerned, I guess, when he was playing with dolls and stuff,” she said. “Playing with the girls’ toys, and probably picking up little effeminate, well, like stroking the hair, the long hair and stuff. It just bothered me that maybe he was picking up maybe too many feminine traits.” She said it bothered her because she wanted Kirk to grow up and have “a normal life.”
Then Kaytee Murphy saw a psychologist on local television.
“He was naming all of these things; ‘If your son is doing five of these 10 things, does he prefer to play with girls’ toys instead of boys’ toys?’ Just things like this,” she said.
The doctor was on TV that day, recruiting boys for a government-funded program at the University of California, Los Angeles.
“Well, him being the expert, I thought, maybe I should take Kirk in,” said Kaytee Murphy. “In other words, nip it in the bud, before it got started any further.”
