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Morris / Perceptions of Black Girls in Classrooms
Educators spend more time trying to force young black girls into what they feel is “acceptable” femininity that actually ENGAGING with them about the school work becomes secondary to making sure they are “ladylike” enough.
“no one wants an unladylike, aggressive, self-reliant girl so put down those books and cross your legs”
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Morris / Perceptions of Black Girls in Classrooms
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Morris / Perceptions of Black Girls in Classrooms
its funny because this quote can easily be interpreted to mean that this is a *good* distinction. Like “black women don’t feel included in traditional forms of femininity, but that’s okay because it makes them stronger.” It’s a double edged sward, because in one sense black girls are able to live the life they are socialized into - but once they go from areas where they are one of many WOC to an instance where you are the only black girl in their class - it’s hard for your LACK of “traditional femininity” to not visibly mark you as a defected “other.”
Playing Unfair: The Media Portrayals of Female Athletes
Homophobia is a central organizing principle of our cultural definition of manhood.
Homophobia is more than the irrational fear of gay men, more than the fear that we might be perceived as gay. […] Our fear is the fear of humiliation. We are ashamed to be afraid.
Shame leads to silence—the silences that keep other people believing that we actually approve of the things that are done to women, to minorities, to gays and lesbians in our culture. […] That clammy-handed silence when guys in the office make gay-bashing jokes.
Our fears are the sources of our silencs, and men’s silence is what keeps the system running.
— Masculinity as Homophobia — Michael S. Kimmel (via teanjellybeans)
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Ashton Kutcher while describing his movie No Strings Attached.
At first i was like “why is Ashton talking about the female orgasm?” But what he says isn’t wrong. (Though, i haven’t even seen previews for this movie so, we’ll see.) But to go on a slight tangent to Kutcher’s point, talking about the female Orgasm is actually pretty empowering. My school, in the past, has brought in speakers who authored a book called “I Love Female Orgasm”. It was a really empowering presentation. Taught women to be proud of their bodies and comfortable with sexual pleasure.
anywho, here’s a link to their website. There is their book, swag, and a link about the college program they did. It looks like they even have LGBTQ resources as well. well… have fun.
A Quick Less In Womens Studies: Male Gaze
Male Gaze - definition: The idea that when we look at images in art or on screen we’re seeing them as a man might - even if we are women - because these images are constructed to be seen by men.
It’ very pervasive and very heteronormative. The male gaze also affects how & why straight women find images of women attractive. We look at sexy pictures of women and admire them not only because they are attractive, but because it is meant for us to hope to one day look like that woman. When we see busty cleavage or a slim waist, we’re not only supposed to think “damn, she looks good” but “i want a man to find me that sexually attractive.” Which brings me to the cover of this Cosmopolitan magazine i ran across while shopping at walmart. Even though it’s a magazine for women, they know exactly what they’re doing when putting this particular image on their cover. It’s right next to headlines about sex tips and “how to look sexier naked.”
And this is where you, the consumer comes in. You’re supposed to see that woman, admire her beauty, and believe that somehow if you buy this magazine you’ll look as sexy as she does.
ugh. good night.