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Such encouragement for girls to be more assertive was not the norm at the school,however. And most of these girls accepted,rather than openly resisted, efforts to modify their behavior. Clubs such as The Proper Ladies, as well as many teachers in daily classroom interactions, appeared intent on molding Black girls into more mainstream models of femininity—models that included more “proper”behavior such as bodily control and restriction, speaking in a quieter way,and being more receptive to authority and instruction. This focus revealed a perception that the femininity of Black girls was somehow flawed. I did observe Black girls to be assertive and outspoken in classrooms,but I did not observe this behavior to be consistently obnoxious or disruptive. Instead, it demonstrated that many African American girls simply showed an interest and excitement in learning, and were engaged in the class. Ironically, many educators at Matthews viewed as problematic the same set of behaviors that led Black girls to pursue their learning in a concerted and self-reliant way. In their genuine attempts to help these girls by teaching them proper ladylike manners, educators often unintentionally stifled the outspokenness and assertiveness that forged academic success for many African American girls at Matthews.

Morris / Perceptions of Black Girls in Classrooms 

Educators spend more time trying to force young black girls into what they feel is “acceptable” femininity that actually ENGAGING with them about the school work becomes secondary to making sure they are “ladylike” enough.

“no one wants an unladylike, aggressive, self-reliant girl so put down those books and cross your legs”

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The tendency of African American girls to assert themselves in classrooms and stand up to boys was not always interpreted positively by teachers, however. Such behaviors appeared to work quite well for Black girls academically,as evidenced by advanced course enrollment and positive teachers’perceptions. This stands in contrast to Grant’s (1992) observations in mixed-race classrooms, where teachers did not describe Black girls as
among the top students. However,similar to Grant I noticed that educators at Matthews still focused less attention on the academic progress of Black girls, and more attention on their comportment and *social decorum*. As I have described elsewhere, most educators at Matthews expressed a keen interest in student discipline, with Black and Latino boys constituting the most harshly and regularly disciplined groups at the school. However, as I will show, teachers did subject Black girls to a particular form of discipline,largely directed at their comportment. This discipline stemmed from perceptions of them as challenging to authority, loud, and *not ladylike*.

Morris / Perceptions of Black Girls in Classrooms 

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The historical exclusion from White, ideal models of femininity and the requirement to be independent from men has forged outspokenness for many Black women and girls. I observed this outspokenness at Matthews. Black girls there appeared less restrained by the dominant,White middle-class view of femininity as docile and compliant, and less expectant of male protection than White girls in other educational research

Morris / Perceptions of Black Girls in Classrooms

its funny because this quote can easily be interpreted to mean that this is a *good* distinction. Like “black women don’t feel included in traditional forms of femininity, but that’s okay because it makes them stronger.” It’s a double edged sward, because in one sense black girls are able to live the life they are socialized into - but once they go from areas where they are one of many WOC to an instance where you are the only black girl in their class - it’s hard for your LACK of “traditional femininity” to not visibly mark you as a defected “other.”

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Playing Unfair: The Media Portrayals of Female Athletes

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Homophobia is a central organizing principle of our cultural definition of manhood.

Homophobia is more than the irrational fear of gay men, more than the fear that we might be perceived as gay. […] Our fear is the fear of humiliation. We are ashamed to be afraid.

Shame leads to silence—the silences that keep other people believing that we actually approve of the things that are done to women, to minorities, to gays and lesbians in our culture. […] That clammy-handed silence when guys in the office make gay-bashing jokes.

Our fears are the sources of our silencs, and men’s silence is what keeps the system running.

Masculinity as Homophobia — Michael S. Kimmel (via teanjellybeans)

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One thing [high school sex ed classes] teach about is how to get pregnant or how to not get pregnant, but they don’t really talk about sex as a point of pleasure for women. The male orgasm is actually right there and readily available to learn about because it’s actually part of the reproductive cycle, but the female orgasm isn’t really talked about in the education system. Part of that creates a place where women aren’t empowered around their own sexuality and their own sexual selves, and from a purely entertainment point of view, to create a movie with a female lead that’s empowered with her own sexuality is a powerful thing.

Ashton Kutcher while describing his movie No Strings Attached.

At first i was like “why is Ashton talking about the female orgasm?” But what he says isn’t wrong. (Though, i haven’t even seen previews for this movie so, we’ll see.) But to go on a slight tangent to Kutcher’s point, talking about the female Orgasm is actually pretty empowering. My school, in the past, has brought in speakers who authored a book called “I Love Female Orgasm”. It was a really empowering presentation. Taught women to be proud of their bodies and comfortable with sexual pleasure. 

anywho, here’s a link to their website. There is their book, swag, and a link about the college program they did. It looks like they even have LGBTQ resources as well. well… have fun.

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Zoom A Quick Less In Womens Studies: Male Gaze
Male Gaze - definition: The idea that when we look at images in art or on screen we’re seeing them as a man might - even if we are women - because these images are constructed to be seen by men.
It’ very pervasive and very heteronormative. The male gaze also affects how & why straight women find images of women attractive. We look at sexy pictures of women and admire them not only because they are attractive, but because it is meant for us to hope to one day look like that woman. When we see busty cleavage or a slim waist, we’re not only supposed to think “damn, she looks good” but “i want a man to find me that sexually attractive.” Which brings me to the cover of this Cosmopolitan magazine i ran across while shopping at walmart. Even though it’s a magazine for women, they know exactly what they’re doing when putting this particular image on their cover. It’s right next to headlines about sex tips and “how to look sexier naked.”
And this is where you, the consumer comes in. You’re supposed to see that woman, admire her beauty, and believe that somehow if you buy this magazine you’ll look as sexy as she does.
ugh. good night.

A Quick Less In Womens Studies: Male Gaze

Male Gaze - definition: The idea that when we look at images in art or on screen we’re seeing them as a man might - even if we are women - because these images are constructed to be seen by men.

It’ very pervasive and very heteronormative. The male gaze also affects how & why straight women find images of women attractive. We look at sexy pictures of women and admire them not only because they are attractive, but because it is meant for us to hope to one day look like that woman. When we see busty cleavage or a slim waist, we’re not only supposed to think “damn, she looks good” but “i want a man to find me that sexually attractive.” Which brings me to the cover of this Cosmopolitan magazine i ran across while shopping at walmart. Even though it’s a magazine for women, they know exactly what they’re doing when putting this particular image on their cover. It’s right next to headlines about sex tips and “how to look sexier naked.”

And this is where you, the consumer comes in. You’re supposed to see that woman, admire her beauty, and believe that somehow if you buy this magazine you’ll look as sexy as she does.

ugh. good night.

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Zoom oh, i get it. I’m supposed to look at this, hate myself for not being thin/sexy/”radiant” enough and feel compelled to run into GNC & buy hundreds of dollars worth of pills and supplements.
and of course the pedestal of feminine beauty is a slender blond white women.

oh, i get it. I’m supposed to look at this, hate myself for not being thin/sexy/”radiant” enough and feel compelled to run into GNC & buy hundreds of dollars worth of pills and supplements.

and of course the pedestal of feminine beauty is a slender blond white women.

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