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A quasi-academic look at Feminism, politics & race relations through the lens of a 20-something year old Nigerian American who was born & raised up in the (still) segregated south but has relocated to the "liberal" yet historic & traditional north.
This blog is my space for an interdisciplinary examination of race, gender, class, sexuality - all things intersectional & multi-dimensional.
Feminism the way I see it...



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When I was 17 years old, I aspired to be a down ass chick. I was into pseudo-thugs and pretty boys, or any combination of the two, and (would have) gladly compromised my goals to be “down.” Here is what a down-ass chick was: loyal, sexual, willing to lie, die, kill (read: fight), or steal for her ni**a. She kept her mouth shut and legs slightly open, but only for her dude. She was supportive and submissive, and essentially self-sacrificing. She was glamorized in the music and films of the late 90s, early 2000s (and even currently) and she always got the dude—whether he was worthy of being had or not (keep in mind that having the dude included being his “main girl” if he had other girls, or being his faithful chick on the streets if he was locked up).

rboylorn | The Evolution of a Down Ass Chick

Lately I’ve been really thinking about the whole “down ass chick” era of music. I was still growing up but lots of women I know, my step mom for example, were coming into adulthood when this type of image was glamorized. And who knows how long this image was in popular culture. But it really makes me wonder if that is why I see so many women deal with men who treat them badly, mess around, put their family in jeopardy by committing crimes etc… - because they feel obligated to be that “down ass chick” who’ll put her own livelihood and future on the line to clean up behind her mans selfish irresponsibility?

I’m sure Ja Rule isn’t the reason the women in my life have a trend of faithfully absorbing abuse and mistreatment because “my man needs me to be there,” but whenever I’m reminded of the music that glorified this whole lifestyle I get VERY irritated.

Since I’ve been home for break I’ve had a lot on my mind about abuse culture, families, relationships & love..

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