May 2012
“I seldom raised my voice in protest [while my friends sexually harassed women]...”
– DR. L’HEUREUX LEWIS (via msandrogynous)
Feminists say this all the time but let Michael Kimmel say it and IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW. I guess. Doesn’t make it less true but… I’m also not the *biggest* Michael Kimmel fan.
hagsandkisses asked: Hey, awesome blog! I loved your answer to the black women and their hair question. Would you mind making it rebloggable. Just trying to educate the masses. Thanks! :-)
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Anonymous asked: I have a question about black...
I’m tired of black hair being use as a litmus test of internalized hatred/whiteness. Women alter their body all the time. Every woman that happens to fall with something normative (which is a lot of fucking people) doesn’t hate herself. But we love to hold this standard to black women like “oh you’re not black enough because your hair reflects THE WHITE MAN”
Stuff like that is said by people who...
rosemwelch asked: RE: Relaxer/Alterations. To paraphrase Melissa MacEwan of Shakesville: We can critique our culture & the cultural narratives that affect our decision-making processes without condemning those choices or the people making them. Not everyone will make the same choice, nor should they be thus obliged. Feminism has sufficiently demonstrated its own worth by providing that choice in the first...
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That ending of Mad Men just shook my whole soul...
Only because this episode I really connected with the role Peggy has been in for a while. The “I’ll always faithfully be by your side because I know deep down you need me but you treat me callously, and even cruelly at times” role. The “I’ll swallow my pride and allow you to berate me because everyone makes excuse for you because you’re stressed and under a lot...
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I love it when my posts have typos and my mobile tumblr app is like “oh you wanna correct it? NAH SON, IT’S GONNA STAY THERE TILL YOU GET ON A COMPUTER”
Anonymous asked: I have a question about black women and their hair. Do you consider it a form of internalized racism/whiteness for us to wear a relaxer in our hair? Or what about a weave? Even one that mimics our natural hair but is just 'longer'. I absolutely love your blog and your input would be much appreciated.
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Pete Campbell is the absolute least like able character in all of television.
And I feel like his fictional heirs went to college with me
Anonymous asked: Regarding your ask about writing characters of colour, if the asker googles "racefail 2009" they will find hundreds of links in a wide-ranging discussion about race and representation in writing (centred on sci-fi and fantasy but much can be extrapolated) which includes a huge range of arguments (including shitty racists being shitty and people taking down their shitty arguments) as well...
Anonymous asked: Hi there! It's come to my attention that one of my acquaintances doesn't understand why we still need the feminism movement. Enough with the feminist superiority propaganda bullshit. YOU ARE EQUAL. IT HAS BEEN DONE! Read up on history, you can vote, work, and get paid the same amount if not MORE than a man now. It's been that way for a while. It's hypocritical to put down men...
Anonymous asked: i saw you answering asks earlier about white authors writing POC main characters! do you have any links to recommend about writing POC characters if you're a white author? like do's and don'ts? sorry if this is a dumb question
captainkark asked: if you're still asking about make-up, mac, laura mercier, and iman cosmetics are all pretty great, although iman's line is pricey.
thedigitalruckus asked: aha, I've had the make-over offers (let em do it once too) but I'm stubborn and I think they've got the idea now that it's just not my thing :) I remember once I asked where you're supposed to draw on eyeliner and they laughed and said 'Your eyes, duh!' well hm that's not what I meant -_-
Anonymous asked: the queen collection from cover girl is for POC. (it's Queen Latifa's brand; relatively cheap) you can find it at places like walgreens and target.
Anonymous asked: what's the best way to ask somebody about their cultural background? specifically ethnicity?
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Call for Trans Actors of Color for Indie Film →
lalunafemme:
Synopsis: Approaching his 30’s, Passion, a black trans musician two years into his medical transition, juggles his newfound identity as a black male and the societal expectations that come along with it. Though him and his ska band enjoy local success in Oakland, Ca, Passion is discontent with remaining local and wants to extend the band’s fame beyond the bay area. However, his...
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makeup
someone asked about makeup brands that don’t carry a limited amount of shades. here are the responses I recieved:
normandiewilson - 05-27-12 (5:39pm)
re: makeup that carries a wide range of shades: MAC, Make Up For Ever, Iman has a cosmetic line that is in some Ulta type stores, Bare Minerals/Escentuals, Smashbox, Bobbi Brown and to a certain extent Sephora collection and Nars. The first two...
thedigitalruckus asked: ooh, it's similar for me! was never 'introduced' to make-up or felt it appealing, but people have made comments that make me self-conscious and conflicted. thx for answering, I really enjoy reading your blog and views!
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Anonymous asked: I just want you honest to god...
It’s funny when people act like black men are exceptionally bad - or womanizing. Or are the only people who buy into hyper-masculine tropes. Black masculinity is just always the most demonized, placed on display, used as a scape goat in the media. I can look at ANY man and say that I just see someone who wants to sleep with as many women as possible - but black men always seem to hold a place as...
withrevolutionarycries asked: can you or one of your followers make that last ask about dating (or not) Black men rebloggable. i really liked your response to it.
thedigitalruckus asked: hiya! do you mind if I ask why you don't wear make-up? I don't wear it but have felt conflicted over this...
“Poverty is not simply having no money — it is isolation, vulnerability,...”
– Megan Lee (via sociolab)
Anonymous asked: A different perspective than amanderppp. I'm a white middle-class female bodied Jew and recognize my privileges/advantages, but don't feel guilt. I've been discriminated and harassed/threaten because I'm a girl and/or Jewish (lived in a small anti-Semitic town). So, my outlook is not to stand for any discrimination of any person. But I have always felt a small (not even close...
Anonymous asked: How you gonna say, "I am prejudice against black men because of blahblah" and you are black as gotdamn space at midnight? Hello, pot? You are a nigger too. And furthermore, the fact that you don't prefer your own race goes against human socialization. That is, unless you live in a racist society that teaches you different. Open your mind, baby. The world is waiting for you.
Anonymous asked: I've begun refusing to buy cosmetic brands that don't have a wide array of shades in regards to their foundations. Do you or any of your followers know of any brands I can add to my currently miniscule list?
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That last message goes in my top ten most bizarre questions ever asked of me. I am actually in shock.
Anonymous asked: I just want you honest to god opinion. Do not spare me. I have made up in my mind that I want to be with a white man. Every time I look at black men I have such a negative view. They all seems so arrogant, reaching for 15 minutes of fame by being a rapper, trying to bed a bunch of "bitches and hoes" and all of this. How the HELL do I change this point of view?
Anonymous asked: The right says the media is liberal; the left says the media is conservative. Could you give me evidence to back up how you feel about the tendencies of the media? Thanks!
Anonymous asked: There is a black guy I know who is on FB talking about, "The Myth of the White Elite". and how Black people use the idea of Racist Whitey to avoid confronting their community issues. I am so angry that I can't even form words. It's not even about HIM but his idea that Black people just walk around looking for reasons to hate white people instead of examining ourselves. Like our...
withrevolutionarycries asked: just as a curiosity if the writers of this mythical show are so concerned about accurate portrayals of characters of color and feel like they're not capable of handling it why not give a job to a screenwriter of color (but not pigeon-holing them into only writing for the Brown characters.) maybe if the screenwriting room had more *critical* diversity, white writers wouldn't have all of...
Anonymous asked: Isn't that the same as a man writing a female character? Or a woman writing a male character? I don't think a person has to identify with the character they're creating, as long as they go through every precaution to dispel any stereotypes and use very accurate depictions.
Anonymous asked: But surely if they don't at least try, and then get rebutted, they won't learn where they went wrong?
Anonymous asked: I meant especially if it's fantasy? Like, if it were a fictional and fantasy setting with different social structures and history?
Anonymous asked: What if the person was using the characters to depict why stereotypical roles are bad?
Anonymous asked: Would you consider it racist/appropriative for a white person to write fiction in fictional universes with PoC as main characters?
Anonymous asked: Just out of curiosity, are you a vegetarian? what are your views on animal rights and treatments?
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Anonymous asked: There has been a lot of criticism lately around Girls, which has lead to a wider discussion about "token casting" vs no poc in casts at all. A lot of people argue that "token casting" is more offensive than having all-white casts. What do you think about this? I am inclined to think that it's just an excuse used by white people to white wash their shows, and don't...
amanderppp submitted:
i was going to submit this as an “ask,” but i wrote too much. so here i am. haha, i’m sorry! here is what i wanted to say/ask:
i just came across your blog, and i love it: i really appreciate that your views come from such a diverse, eclectic background. as a middle-class white, jewish chick with the fortune (no pun intended) to attend a liberal arts...
my hobbies
someone asked me about my hobbies the other day. i forgot to add making hair/body products from natural ingredients. today I made flaxseed gel for the first time. now i’m making whipped shea butter w/coconut oil. (i left all my other essential oils in storage. when I settle in boston my natural products are about to BE BANGING).
anywho, never used flaxseed gel before - or any gel since I...
Anonymous asked: I'm not a WOC, but sometimes I point out to my friends that something they did/said was racist and they tell me to be quiet because I obviously have no idea what I'm talking about, since I'm not a WOC (well, they don't use the term WOC). Is it okay for me to correct them even though I'm not a WOC? It just annoys me that some of my friends can't see their biased...
“Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of...”
– Attention, Space Cadets: Do Not Proposition Women in the Elevator
I wish I didn’t need to reblog stuff like this. I wish people *got it*. But judging from the ridiculous response to these posts, stuff like this clearly still needs to be repeated.
(via lavender-labia)
You’re either loose,...
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“I have never seen no church refuse tithes from their LGBT members”
– @MichaelEDyson on religion being used to against equal rights
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Jezebel - Exotic Brown Children: The Newest... →
Whenever Jezebel posts something pertaining to race I love taking a look. Not necessarily for the article, but I love reading what self identified “intellectual feminists” have to say that will almost always derail the issue and defend racism.
“Because equality is not a concept. It’s not something we should be striving for....”
– Joss Whedon when asked why he writes strong female characters. (via itscandidlycara)
except all of his “strong female characters” almost always end up being waifs who have had traumatic experiences and/or will have them later, in awfully fetishistic ways
so yeah let’s stop patting this asshat on...
mildlypoetic asked: About the VodkaetCaviar guy or whatever, I don't think it's fair to put words in his mouth. He was just complimenting whoever's blog that was, and talking about how it made him realize the beauty of colored women and essentially the beauty of himself. Something he'd never known before. What's so bad about that? Doesn't that make you happy, that this blogger (not sure...
“Because equality is not a concept. It’s not something we should be striving for....”
– Joss Whedon when asked why he writes strong female characters. (via itscandidlycara)
So I'm making a zine called 'The Black Feminist...
strugglingtobeheard:
so-treu:
ladyatheist:
pleadingthefilth:
recycleyrself:
blck-grrl:
If any PoC/WoC would like to participate/give their 2 cents please do so! Submissions are open
(Although it’s the Black feminist manifesto, I want it to be inclusive to all non black PoC/WoC! I will probably end up changing the title a bit to reflect that, but right now this gets the point...